Take 60 seconds every waking hour to move—stretch, breathe, walk. It keeps your body energized and your mind clear. That adds up to 2 hours of exercise a week. No sweat, all benefit—for your whole being.
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Practice getting triggered and how fast you can recover
I think this will work for most people. We have all gone ape shit visceral allowing a lousy cable channel to trigger us. So watch whichever one you hate and viscerally disagree with and then after you are triggered, see how fast you can recover. Its a friggin muscle. the ability to recover from being triggered, not go down the rabbit hole, not speak in absolutes ( ie they always say that do that). PS this applies to your closest relationships as well. You need to learn how to control your emotions and I cant think of a better way then to trigger yourself with something innocuous like politics and then see how fast you can recover. Then when something really important happens, like your husband crashes your Porsche, you will not get upset. You might have noticed what I did there, ladies, LOL
Am I allowed to say ladies. Sorry if that triggered you I cant help you. You are way beyond help I suggest heavy drugs, sedation and 24 hour a day medications.
PS Did you notice that Fox had the pretty female anchor? Ok now I am really asking to be cancelled.
You program your brain every day
If you were given a computer at birth that would be your operating system for life, instead of a “brain,” and that would be the only one you would get for your whole life, how would you care for it?
How would you take care of the software? Would you allow strangers to program it? Would you allow people who hated you to program it? How would you take care of it physically? What type of fuel would you give it? Would you regularly take out the trash? .. Would you install the best programs? Would you have a virus protector? If there were any programs installed that do not serve you, would you remove them? Would you install faster software better operating systems when they become available?
Have I said anything that isn’t true about your brain? Would you install harmful software? Would you install negative software? Wouldn’t you have some helpful default programs and shortcuts?
This is easy stuff people. Easy to explain. But it might require a plethora of software to execute. There is the meditation software. The physical exercise software. The prayer software. There are surge protectors to insure the energy is clean (lousy food) Do I even need to explain how everything is the same? By the way as your computer ages is it possible to continuously update it?
If you took really good care of your computer, will the sound and the camera and the speed still work? Can you add peripheral devices to speed up your computer? Can you bring in information faster? Can it be programmed to communicate better LOL.
There are a plethora of courses on “communication,” including listening courses, NLP, the Sedona Method, and Dale Carnegie, Toastmasters, Unblinded. This could be the most straightforward blog post I wrote.
If you are running it at top speed processing power continuously will it get damaged? If you program it with bad information will you get bad results? If you find more efficient programs will it run more efficiently? If you put a huge weight on it will it get damaged? If the energy you put into it is too strong or weak will it operate properly? Would it get damaged?
You are in control of all of these choices which you make unconsciously every minute of every day of your life for that thing on top of your head that you call a brain. It cant operate efficiently until it is purged of negativity and poor programming. That might be a lot of people’s biggest obstacles. How many of us mindlessly scroll through, negative, BS, and sales pitches to make us feel bad about a physical aspect of our being or an object we dont have, or a car, home, kitchen appliance, device, or a supplement that will change your life? I could write about the 40,000 ads you see every day to give you “pain” for something that you are supposedly, “Lacking”. But the totality of the ads you see in one day would be more than my total blog, or pretty much any book ever written.
If your brain is programmed correctly and not fed negativity, the unbelievable things it can do are beyond your comprehension. Most of what you need to do is just take out the trash, and stop feeding it trash. The imaginative capabilities of your brain is beyond astonishing.
The worst brain damage is Emotional. Protect yourself
Physical damage heals rather quickly. If its merely a head wound it might be just days or weeks. Emotional damage can take more than a lifetime to heal. Talk to anyone even in their sixties and seventies. I promise you they will still bear the scars of childhood emotional trauma and even those they allowed themselves to endure throughout their life.
You will hear stories of abusive spouses, neglectful parents, lousy boyfriends and girlfriends, business failures, lousy bosses, teachers and people who told them they were worthless. The scars last forever. Some say we are even healing from a previous lifetime.
So why do we not protect ourselves? We all wake up every morning and the first thing that happens is as our brain realizes it is now awake it begins to think. Or what you allow to pass for thinking. As a human being that has evolved on this earth for millions of years as a prey animal, you are hard wired to look out for predators. So of course the hard wired tendency is to look out for the modern day predators, the bills, the mortgage, the food and gas prices the stability of the world, safety of your children and the neighborhood. Or the same 50,000 thoughts you had yesterday.
So you have just created a mountain of stress for you brain. And you wonder why so many meditate in the morning or have a morning ritual or exercise or whatever to get out of their heads? But its really an inside job. Because you can even worry while you are running. It takes “thought discipline”. You literally have to stand guard at your brain.
Everyone reading this has done it at least once and probably a thousand times in their life. An awful thought or worry pops into your head and you just gently let it pass. If you have ever mediated you know what I am talking about. And if you are a human with a working brain of any sort, there had to be a time where you said to yourself, I will deal with this later and got on with your day.
So the point of this post is to not allow any new injuries into your brain. We can and will always work to relieve our brains of every little and big trauma we have experienced in our lives. But why in Hell or God’s name would you allow new injuries in?
Lets define new injuries. It happens every single day. Your best friend calls you and asks you if you saw the news and literally ramps you up about politics, a war, some humanitarian crisis, immigration, inflation, fuel, food prices. Take your pick. We have a ton of stuff to create negative energy about.
I am not saying we shouldnt do something. Vote your conscience, donate an extra dollar work an extra hour, but also dont forget the serenity prayer. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I. cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
What I am saying today is do not allow additional brain damage. The worst brain damage in the world is emotional brain damage that can take a life time to heal. I sincerely believe that some is so severe it indeed may be more than a life times worth of damage.
The good news is that you can heal. Its actually almost easy. Find a method to heal or let go of your traumas and pain. But the big butt is do not allow new damage every day.
Monitor every one of the 50,000 thoughts coming into your head today. Immediately release the negative ones. Because you can not begin to release the past ones if you are merely heaping bad negative thoughts upon a foundation of bad negative thoughts and feelings.
Its like any damage. You will never get to the core so you can start repairing if if you are constantly adding damage. Or its like bailing out a ship full of negative water. If there is bad water still flowing in faster than you are bailing your ship will sink.
Start today by stopping the flow of bad thoughts ideas and feelings. Its absolutely existential to a happy existence.
Everybody wants community and they will pay big for it.
| Church | Self Help |
| 1 Community | 1 Community |
| 2 Sense of Belonging | 2 Sense of Belonging |
| 3 Friends | 3 Friends |
| 4 life lessons | 4 life lessons |
| 5 north star for hard times | 5 north star for hard times |
| 6 something to believe in | 6 something to believe in |
| 7 sense of purpose | 7 sense of purpose |
| 8 sense of hope for better future | 8 sense of hope for better future |
| 9 charismatic leader | 9 charismatic leader |
| 10 some charity | 10 some charity |
| 11 leader often flawed | 11 leader often flawed |
I was watching TV this morning and stumbled across a televangelist. It’s amazing how far we’ve come. But what sets someone like Tony Robbins apart from Jim Bakker? The answer is nothing.
Sorry if I am impugning the good that many do. But even in the good that they do, dont they all say “listen to me, I have the answers, pay me, do as I say, I am not perfect, I will teach you lessons, find peace friendship in our community, do not spread blasphemy amongst our herd or you will be expelled.” I could go on literally all day.
By the way only Osho said dont follow me if you are not following yourself you are already on the wrong path, Pure genius. He didnt even write a book because he didnt want anyone to follow. All his books are his speeches transcribed. Had to insert him because he is the only on in all of history that I know of that doesnt say “follow me”
I am not saying the others are doing bad work. In fact I know both the church and self help gurus have inspired countless monumental success stories. All I am saying is that they fullfill the same basic human needs,.
They all have their stars and their crooks. I just like honesty and transparency. I also believe most of them have a good heart and are sincerely doing their best. I still own my own brain, so I do have questions.
Blind faith has its upsides and its downsides. I made the comparison recently to house flipping or the “no money down craze”. Many who got rich had Shit For Brains. (PS guess who owns SFB inc). I noticed forty years ago the most successful were not necessarily smart they just did exactly as they were told becasue they didnt have the ability to discern.
In fact most super intelligent people are plagued by their brains. I remember thinking in my early twenties. I wish I could just be happy joining the union making $50,000 a year buying a house in Staten Island, having 2 and a half kids and a dog. Unfortunately I would rather kill myself then be that bored with life, and I almost did countless times. But I didnt succeed. So I guess we will figure out what is next in life for us all.
Sorry for the segue. The brain is too active. The point of this blog is whether you belong to a church a cult, or a self help group, we humans all want, no NEED, community, family, a sense of belonging, a map for life, and hope. There is nothing wrong with seeking it, just dont drink poisoned Kool Ade. Some Kool Ade might be the price of admission. Its too bad the leaders of the churches and self help courses are not into growth. They fear that their kingdom will be toppled if anyone tries to improve what they are doing, because that means they are no longer the sole arbiter of everything.
PS once again I am acknowledging that I learn from all of them. I love to learn. I am also smart enough to understand the way their ecosystem must operate. They can not tolerate everyone questioning them.
Can you imagine if Christianity allowed every parishioner to question everything every day? LOL
Maybe they all use religion as their model, it’s pretty obvious how to run a community of “learning” “Self help” “Self growth” or even “Salvation” “Hope” and “life skills” and “life lessons”
I guess they are all like the McDonalds LOL. McDonalds is famous for creating protocols that anyone can follow. So is religion or self help any different than McDonalds? oops on to the next blog.
To be successful, you must be like McDonald’s: replicable, unquestioning, identical. Actually, hotel chains are like that, too. You know what to expect. Meeting expectations gives people safety. We can even get into the neurology of that and how David constantly reminds us that the amygdala must feel safe.
The amygdala is really interesting must do a blog on that too.
Oops almost forgot AA. But AA is only 2 million compared to two billion in Christianity. Maybe they need to borrow more from the church. PS I learned a lot from AA as well. Serenity prayer is about every single issue in every day of your life. So is HALT. Are you hungry angry lonely or tired? I would bet if HALT was hanging in every household 99% of all arguments would never happen.
But we all need to belong to something, unless you lucky enough to have a dozen siblings and a family bigger than a football team. I wonder how large families fare psychologically? I am sure depending on their leader and rules, they are either fantastic or fantastic disasters too.
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