Emotional Energetic States: Energy vs. Anti-Energy

  1. Fun vs. Rigidity
    • Fun: Represents a state of joy, playfulness, and light-heartedness. This energy is infectious and can uplift those around you.
    • Rigidity: Signifies strictness, inflexibility, and a serious demeanor. It can create barriers in communication and make interactions feel tense.
  2. Goddess in the Heart vs. Thinking (in the Head)
    • Goddess in the Heart: Symbolizes being present, compassionate, and connected to your emotions and intuition. It allows for deep, heartfelt connections with others.
    • Thinking (in the Head): Indicates being overly analytical, focused on the past or future, and disconnected from the present moment. This state can hinder genuine emotional connection.
  3. Aspirational Inspired vs. Negativity
    • Aspirational Inspired: Involves being motivated, hopeful, and driven by positive goals. This energy can inspire and motivate others.
    • Negativity: Involves pessimism, doubt, and negative vibrations. It can drain energy and discourage those around you.
  4. Zeus Decisive Fulfillment Achievement vs. Fear and Uncertainty
    • Zeus Decisive Fulfillment Achievement: Embodies confidence, decisiveness, and a sense of accomplishment. This state exudes strength and can lead others with assurance.
    • Fear and Uncertainty: Represents anxiety, hesitation, and lack of confidence. It can create instability and prevent effective communication.

The Importance of Emotional Energy in Communication

You cannot effectively communicate with others if you are stuck in a state of rigidity, overthinking, negativity, or fear. True connection happens on an energetic level, where emotions play a crucial role.

Key Points to Remember:

  • We connect energetically: Our emotional states influence our ability to connect with others. Being in a positive and present state enhances our interactions.
  • Physical Actions to Shift States: If you find yourself in misery, grief, or depression, physical actions like a hand clap or fist pump can help shift your energy.
  • Communicating Emotionally: To take people on an emotional journey with you, you need to be in touch with your own emotions. This allows you to communicate with authenticity and empathy.

By being aware of your emotional state and actively choosing positive energy, you can improve your ability to connect and communicate with others. This not only enhances personal relationships but also professional interactions and overall well-being.

Credit Michael Smikun July 5, 2024 morning huddle Unblinded my notes to the best of my ability

Are You Taking the Shots?

In both sports and life, taking the shot is a metaphor for seizing opportunities. Whether it’s shooting a basketball, kicking a soccer ball, or swinging a baseball bat, the willingness to take the shot is what ultimately leads to success. But what are the actual percentages of these shots resulting in success in professional sports? Let’s dive into some statistics to understand the reality of taking the shot.

Basketball: Field Goal Percentage

In professional basketball, the percentage of shots that result in baskets, known as the field goal percentage, varies by player and position. However, as of recent NBA seasons:

  • Average Field Goal Percentage: Approximately 45-46%
  • Top Players: Often exceed 50%, with centers and forwards typically having higher percentages due to taking shots closer to the basket.

Soccer: Shots on Goal to Goals

In soccer, the conversion rate of shots on goal to actual goals can be quite low:

  • Average Conversion Rate: Around 10-12%
  • Top Strikers: The best forwards might have a conversion rate of 20% or higher, showcasing their ability to capitalize on scoring opportunities.

Baseball: Batting Average

In baseball, the batting average represents the percentage of at-bats that result in hits:

  • Average Batting Average: Approximately .250 to .260 (25-26%)
  • Top Hitters: Averages above .300 (30%) are considered excellent, with the very best reaching .350 or higher.

Hockey: Shots on Goal to Goals

In hockey, the percentage of shots on goal that result in goals, known as the shooting percentage, is typically:

  • Average Shooting Percentage: Around 9-10%
  • Top Players: Can achieve shooting percentages of 15% or higher, reflecting their precision and skill.

Additional Sports:

  • American Football: Completion percentage for quarterbacks, which measures the percentage of passes completed:
    • Average: Around 63-65%
    • Top Quarterbacks: Often exceed 70%
  • Tennis: First serve percentage, which measures the percentage of first serves that are in:
    • Average: Around 60-65%
    • Top Players: Often exceed 70%, with the best reaching 75-80%
  • Golf: Greens in Regulation (GIR), which measures the percentage of holes where the ball reaches the green in the expected number of strokes:
    • Average: Around 65-70%
    • Top Players: Often exceed 75%

Cold Calls: Success Rates Across Industries

In the business world, taking shots often means making cold calls. The success rate of cold calls—calls to potential customers who have had no prior contact with the salesperson—varies by industry:

  • Overall Average: Approximately 2% (meaning 2 out of every 100 cold calls result in a sale).
  • Technology Industry: Success rates can be higher, around 5-10%, due to targeted approaches and higher-value sales.
  • Insurance: Typically lower, around 1-2%, given the competitive nature and high customer skepticism.
  • Real Estate: Approximately 1-3%, depending on market conditions and lead quality.
  • B2B Sales: Can range from 2-5%, with higher rates for well-qualified leads.

Are You Taking the Shots in Your Life?

Let’s reflect on how these statistics translate to personal and professional growth. Are you the player who passes the ball to someone else, thinking they’re a better shooter? Do you find yourself primarily blocking, getting rebounds, or setting picks rather than taking the shot yourself?

If you took as many shots as the next guy, wouldn’t you score more?

In life, just like in sports, success often requires stepping out of your comfort zone and taking the shot. Whether it’s pursuing a new career opportunity, starting a business, or simply voicing an idea in a meeting, the willingness to take risks is crucial.

Key Takeaways:

  • Take the Shot: Embrace the opportunity to act, even if it means facing failure.
  • Learn from Misses: Each missed shot is a learning opportunity, bringing you closer to success.
  • Celebrate Hits: Acknowledge and celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.

Conclusion

The statistics from professional sports remind us that even the best athletes do not succeed every time. In fact, success often means converting less than half of their attempts. The key takeaway here is that taking the shot, despite the risk of failure, is essential.

In life, just like in sports, the willingness to take the shot, to seize opportunities, and to embrace the possibility of failure is what leads to growth and success. Whether you’re pursuing a career goal, starting a new project, or striving for personal improvement, remember that the act of taking the shot is a victory in itself.

So, are you taking the shots in your life? Are you stepping up and giving yourself the chance to succeed? Embrace the mindset of a professional athlete: take the shot, learn from the misses, and celebrate the hits. Over time, your persistence and willingness to try will lead to your own version of success.

One Last Kick in the Butt. What 80% misses gets you paid

The highest-paid athlete in the world for 2024 is Cristiano Ronaldo, with earnings totaling $260 million. His income includes $200 million from his salary with Al Nassr and $60 million from endorsements​ (Forbes Australia)​​ (Wikipedia)​.

Cristiano Ronaldo’s Performance:

In soccer, Ronaldo’s shots on goal conversion rate varies, but on average, a top striker like him has a goal conversion rate of around 20-25%. This means that for every 100 shots on goal, approximately 20-25 result in goals, illustrating the high standard expected in professional soccer.

Humans: Nature’s Addicts

It’s a funny but profound truth: humans are, in essence, drug addicts. But not in the way you might first imagine. Our brains are wired to seek out experiences that release pleasure-inducing chemicals. These “drugs” are the neurotransmitters and hormones like endorphins, oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Let’s take a closer look at how these natural highs influence our behavior and choices, and the myriad ways we chase them.

Choosing Your “Drugs”

1. Exercise and Endorphins: When you exercise, your brain releases endorphins, often referred to as the body’s natural painkillers. This chemical surge can give you a euphoric feeling, known as the “runner’s high.” It’s a healthier way to get your fix, boosting mood, reducing stress, and enhancing overall well-being.

2. Sweets and Sugar Rushes: Eating sweets can trigger a rapid release of dopamine, the brain’s reward chemical, making you feel good and crave more. This is why it’s so hard to resist that piece of chocolate or that scoop of ice cream—our brains are wired to love sugar.

3. Alcohol and Relaxation: Alcohol consumption increases the release of dopamine, giving you a temporary feeling of euphoria and relaxation. However, it’s a double-edged sword, as overindulgence can lead to dependence and a myriad of health issues.

4. Physical Touch and Oxytocin: Cuddling with your pet, hugging a loved one, or even holding hands can release oxytocin, known as the “love hormone.” This not only feels good but also strengthens social bonds and reduces stress.

5. Avoidance and Stress Reduction: Sometimes, not making a decision or avoiding a task can be a way to sidestep the fear and anxiety that come with certain activities. This avoidance can temporarily shield us from the flood of stress-related chemicals like cortisol.

6. Politics and Adrenaline: Getting riled up about politics or other contentious topics can flood your brain with adrenaline, making you feel alive and engaged. This explains why people can become so passionately involved in debates or political discussions, often thriving on the emotional intensity.

7. Social Media and Dopamine: Social media is designed to keep us hooked. Every like, comment, or share triggers a release of dopamine, reinforcing our desire to keep scrolling and engaging. This constant hit of pleasure is why so many find themselves addicted to their screens.

8. Healthy Social Interactions: Interacting with others can release a cocktail of beneficial chemicals—oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. These interactions boost our mood, enhance social bonds, and contribute to our overall health and well-being.

Why Social Media is So Addictive

Social media is like a digital playground for our brain’s reward system. It offers instant gratification and constant feedback, making it a potent source of dopamine hits without the need to leave the house. This explains why scrolling through feeds can be so hard to put down—it’s a quick, easy, and effective way to feel good.

Balancing Your Brain’s Needs

Understanding that we are all seeking these chemical rewards can help us make more conscious choices about how we get them. Opting for healthier activities like exercise, social interactions, and hobbies can provide the same pleasurable effects as more harmful behaviors but with lasting benefits for our well-being.

So, next time you reach for that piece of chocolate, decide to binge-watch a series, or opt to hit the gym, remember—you’re just trying to get your next fix. Make sure it’s one that truly enhances your life.

Conclusion: The Dual Nature of Our Urges

Humans are hardwired to seek out chemical rewards from various activities, a trait that has ensured our survival through evolution. These chemical urges—whether it’s the endorphin rush from exercise or the dopamine hit from social media—are essential for motivating us to eat, drink, and connect with others. Without these built-in triggers, we might neglect basic survival needs, much like how some older adults lose their thirst mechanism and risk dehydration.

However, in today’s world, these same survival mechanisms can also lead to our downfall. The abundance of unhealthy foods, coupled with technologies designed to exploit our urge for instant gratification, can steer us towards detrimental habits.

Understanding this dual nature is crucial. While these urges help us thrive, they can also be manipulated, pushing us to make choices that ultimately harm our health and well-being. By becoming aware of these impulses and how they influence our behavior, we can make more conscious decisions, opting for activities that provide lasting benefits over fleeting pleasures.

It’s a delicate balance, but by choosing healthier ways to satisfy our urges—like exercising, engaging in meaningful social interactions, or pursuing hobbies—we can harness our natural instincts to live more fulfilling and healthier lives.

Study Your Successes: The Key to Navigating Life’s Challenges

Life is a journey full of ups and downs, moments of triumph, and periods of struggle. One crucial aspect of navigating this journey is understanding not only our mistakes but also our successes. Too often, we focus on what went wrong, driven by the pain of our failures. However, by studying our successes, we can better prepare ourselves for when life inevitably throws us off track.

The Lesson in Pain

We learn from our mistakes because of the pain they cause. Put your hand in fire once, and you’ll remember the lesson forever. Pain serves as a powerful teacher, ingraining the memory of our errors deeply within us. However, this focus on pain means we often overlook the equally valuable lessons our successes can teach us.

The Mystery of Sudden Failures

How many times have you felt like everything was going perfectly, only to have it all fall apart unexpectedly? The train falls off the tracks, and you’re left wondering why. Without understanding what contributed to your previous successes, it’s challenging to pinpoint what might have gone wrong. This lack of insight can leave you feeling lost and frustrated.

The Importance of Self-Reflection

To avoid these pitfalls, it’s essential to study your successes as diligently as you analyze your mistakes. One practical way to do this is by keeping a diary or an Excel sheet where you annotate moments when you “feel great” or note any significant achievements. Use keywords that resonate with you and that you will remember.

Creating a Success Log

When life does go off course, you can refer back to this log. Use the “find” function to search for those key moments of success and identify patterns. Perhaps you’ll discover that regular exercise, a morning walk, a particular supplement, or abstaining from TV were part of your routine during successful periods. The possibilities are endless, but without documentation, these insights remain hidden.

The Power of Positive Habits

By studying what you were doing right, you can recreate those conditions. Understanding the habits, routines, and activities that contributed to your success gives you a roadmap to follow. It’s about recognizing that success isn’t just about avoiding pain; it’s also about cultivating the positive habits that lead to thriving.

A Call to Action

Start today by creating your success log. Write down what you did, how you felt, and any small details that might seem insignificant now but could be crucial later. Study yourself when you are successful. This proactive approach will equip you with the knowledge and tools to get back on track faster when challenges arise.

Embrace a Balanced Perspective

Remember, life is a balance of learning from pain and celebrating triumphs. By giving equal weight to your successes, you ensure a more comprehensive understanding of yourself and your journey. This balanced perspective will empower you to navigate life’s inevitable ups and downs with greater confidence and resilience.

Conclusion

Study your successes or you will have no idea what to do when the train falls off the tracks. Pain teaches us what to avoid, but understanding our successes shows us what to embrace. Keep track of your positive moments, reflect on them, and use them as a guide to maintain and replicate those successes. Your future self will thank you.

If you are what you think then when you dont think you dont exist.

This is my corollary to Wayne Dyer”‘s “If you are what you do then when you dont you arent.” It would seem like most people are running their life like that. Try challenging anyone to let go of their thoughts for a day. They will accuse you of being crazy. I am merely suggesting that you conduct just one day without stupid repetitive thoughts. What is the point of being alive it it is only to repeat the same stupid thoughts you had yesterday. Everyone hangs on to every thought for dear life. Perhaps dementia will be the only time they are free from repetitive thoughts.

I had a day of no thoughts a few months ago. It was a Sunday and I challenged myself to have a day with no “thoughts”. Just like when you meditate. Anytime a thought came up that was one of the 90,000 from yesterday or any days before, literally any previous thought was let go. I only allowed original thoughts or creative ideas for the whole day. It was spooky. Who was I anyway? Arent we what we think? By the end of the day I was wondering if I was going to die. It didnt make any sense to no longer identify with this body this life, these problems. Maybe I understand why it is so hard to let go of our repetitive thoughts. There is comfort in identifying even with your bills. It reminds you of who you are and what you have done.

But I would maintain that all creative thinking comes from “no mind”. How many times have you forgot about something only for the solution to pop into your head. That goes for complex new ideas as well as simply finding your keys or remembering a person’s name.

I played with my friend ChatGpt to see what they thought.

We started with Wayne Dyers famous one that I have remembered,

If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t” delves into the concept of identity and its relationship with action. Let’s break it down:

  1. Identity and Action: The phrase suggests that our identity is closely tied to our actions or what we do. This implies that our sense of self, how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us, is shaped by our behavior, choices, and activities.
  2. Absence of Action and Identity: When it says “when you don’t, you aren’t,” it implies that when we’re not actively engaged in doing something, we’re somehow lacking in identity or essence. In other words, our identity is not static but rather dynamic, dependent on our ongoing actions and engagements.
  3. Implication of Inactivity: There’s an underlying suggestion that inactivity or lack of action leads to a kind of existential void or loss of self. This can be interpreted in various ways depending on the context. For example, in a professional context, if someone’s identity is strongly tied to their job or career, being unemployed or not actively pursuing their profession might lead to a sense of loss or uncertainty about their identity.
  4. Critique: While the statement highlights the link between action and identity, it can also be seen as limiting or reductive. Identity is a complex interplay of various factors including personal values, beliefs, relationships, and experiences, not solely determined by what one does. Additionally, it doesn’t account for the value of introspection, rest, or activities that might not be traditionally seen as productive but still contribute to one’s sense of self.

I think Wayne Dyer was speaking to those of us who identify with our jobs. So then when you retire who are you? You can go even further with that into all of your relationships. The saddest thing is when a parent loses a child. But isnt it the same with all of our relationships? You lose each one of those identities if the person you are in relationship with no longer exists. Ok too dark, but we can write a whole book on that.

You Are What you Think

Overall, the statement prompts reflection on how we define ourselves, how our actions shape our identity, and the implications of inactivity on our sense of self.

Then moved on to “You are what you think” expands the idea of identity beyond just actions to include thoughts and mental processes. Here’s how we can elaborate on this concept:

  1. Cognitive Identity: This statement suggests that our identity is not only shaped by our actions but also by our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. It implies that the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us is influenced by our cognitive processes.
  2. Self-Perception: What we think about ourselves, our abilities, our worth, and our place in the world contributes to our sense of identity. Positive thoughts can lead to a confident and empowered self-perception, while negative thoughts can undermine self-esteem and create a sense of inadequacy.
  3. Impact on Behavior: Our thoughts have a profound influence on our behavior. What we think often translates into how we act. For example, someone who believes they are capable and worthy is more likely to take on challenges and pursue their goals, whereas someone who doubts themselves may hold back and avoid opportunities.
  4. Internal Dialogue: The statement also draws attention to the ongoing internal dialogue we have with ourselves. This internal dialogue can be supportive and affirming or critical and self-defeating, shaping our perceptions and actions accordingly.
  5. Mindfulness and Self-Awareness: Embracing the idea “you are what you think” emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and self-awareness. By paying attention to our thoughts and actively choosing to cultivate positive, constructive thinking patterns, we can shape a healthier and more resilient sense of self.
  6. Challenge and Growth: Recognizing the power of thoughts in shaping identity also opens up avenues for personal growth and transformation. By challenging negative thought patterns and cultivating more positive and empowering beliefs, individuals can redefine their identity and navigate life with greater confidence and fulfillment.

In essence, “you are what you think” underscores the profound influence of our thoughts on our identity, behavior, and overall well-being, highlighting the importance of cultivating a positive and empowering mindset. Maybe this is why we think incessantly and why 90% of our thoughts are the same as yesterday. Isnt there comfort in that? When you wake up in the morning do you really want to do the exercise, “who am I?” Its pretty brutal, we can probably find a youtube on that. It involves one person pretty much shouting at the other over and over again, “Who are you?” I think its a lot easier to just skin into all of you identities, wishes and problems from yesterday vs confronting that brutal exercise. Again maybe that is why it is so hard to let go of even negative things and identies we have assumed that are extremely problematic, even hurtful. Isnt it easier to stay in an abusive relationship? What about a bad job?

So then when you dont think you dont exist

The statement “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” takes the concept to an extreme by suggesting that consciousness and existence are contingent upon cognitive activity. Here’s how we can interpret and elaborate on this idea:

  1. Existence and Consciousness: At its core, this statement implies that our existence is intimately tied to our capacity for thought and consciousness. In other words, it suggests that without cognitive processes such as thinking, awareness, and perception, our sense of existence ceases to be.
  2. Philosophical Implications: This idea resonates with certain philosophical perspectives, particularly those that emphasize the primacy of consciousness in defining reality. For instance, in some existentialist philosophies, existence is viewed as inseparable from consciousness and subjective experience.
  3. Metaphorical Interpretation: On a metaphorical level, “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” could be interpreted as highlighting the importance of mental engagement and active participation in life. It suggests that a passive or unreflective existence lacks depth and meaning.
  4. Mindfulness and Presence: From a practical standpoint, the statement underscores the value of mindfulness and present-moment awareness. By actively engaging with our thoughts, emotions, and surroundings, we cultivate a sense of presence and aliveness.
  5. Limitations and Nuances: While the statement emphasizes the significance of cognitive activity, it’s important to recognize its limitations and nuances. Existence encompasses more than just thinking; it involves physical presence, sensory experiences, emotional states, and relational connections.
  6. States of Consciousness: Additionally, there are states of consciousness such as deep sleep, meditation, or altered states where conventional thinking may be absent, yet existence persists in some form. This highlights the complexity of the relationship between thought and existence.
  7. Collective Consciousness: Finally, on a broader scale, the statement invites contemplation of collective consciousness and shared reality. Our individual existence is intertwined with the collective consciousness of humanity, shaped by cultural, social, and historical influences.

In summary, “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” prompts reflection on the interplay between consciousness and existence, emphasizing the role of cognitive activity in shaping our sense of self and reality. However, it’s crucial to approach this idea with awareness of its philosophical, metaphorical, and practical implications.

When you dont think you are more likely to be creative

The idea that you are more likely to be creative when you don’t actively engage in conscious thought touches on the concept of “flow” or “unconscious creativity.” Here’s how we can explore this notion:

  1. Flow State: When you’re not actively thinking about a problem or task, your mind can enter a state of flow, where ideas seem to emerge effortlessly and intuitively. This state is often associated with heightened creativity because it allows your subconscious mind to make connections and generate novel solutions without the constraints of conscious thought.
  2. Unconscious Processing: Even when you’re not consciously thinking about something, your brain is still processing information in the background. Unconscious thought processes can sift through experiences, memories, and emotions, leading to unexpected insights and creative breakthroughs.
  3. Relaxation and Distraction: Stepping away from conscious thought can create mental space for relaxation and distraction, which are conducive to creativity. Engaging in activities like taking a walk, doodling, or daydreaming can stimulate divergent thinking and spark creative ideas.
  4. Silencing the Inner Critic: Conscious thought is often accompanied by self-criticism and judgment, which can inhibit creativity. When you let go of conscious control, you’re more likely to silence your inner critic and allow yourself to explore unconventional ideas without fear of failure.
  5. Connecting Disparate Ideas: Unconscious thought has a remarkable ability to connect seemingly unrelated concepts and draw inspiration from diverse sources. By allowing your mind to wander freely, you create opportunities for serendipitous connections and innovative thinking.
  6. Creativity in the Absence of Thought: Some of the most creative moments occur when you least expect them, such as in dreams or moments of idle reflection. These instances demonstrate that creativity can emerge spontaneously, even in the absence of conscious thought.
  7. Balancing Conscious and Unconscious Processes: While unconscious creativity can be powerful, it’s essential to strike a balance between conscious and unconscious thought. Conscious deliberation and planning are often necessary to refine and implement creative ideas generated unconsciously.

In summary, the idea that you are more likely to be creative when you don’t actively think underscores the importance of tapping into unconscious processes and allowing for moments of spontaneous inspiration. By embracing periods of mental relaxation and openness, you create fertile ground for creativity to flourish.

Matching and Mirroring: The Art of Elevating Spirits

You’ve likely heard about the techniques of matching and mirroring, right? To establish rapport, one must initially match someone’s energy level before guiding them to a different emotional state. Imagine encountering someone whose energy is somewhat low; if you approach with overwhelming enthusiasm, you might entertain them, but you won’t necessarily uplift their spirits.

Instead, what if you began by matching their subdued energy, gained their trust, and then, with permission, engaged them in an activity to elevate their mood? This approach isn’t just about entertainment—it’s about providing a truly enriching experience.

This post is dedicated to Michael Smikun and Fernando Valencia. I recently learned from Michael during a captivating hour where he managed to energize a room full of disinterested doctors by encouraging them to tickle each other, followed by a thorough discussion on how to uplift energy and facilitate energy transference.

Moments later, I shared these insights with Fernando. I have often described myself as a golden retriever. I get excited when I see my friends and often “jump on them and lick them,” and that actually does cheer them up 90% of the time. He reminded me of the intuitive approach of golden retrievers: sometimes, when you’re feeling down, these dogs don’t just overwhelm you with energy. Instead, they might gently lay their head on your lap, a simple act that can lift your spirits enough to invite you to go out and play with them elevating you both.

As I write this, it strikes me how much we can learn from the empathetic nature of dogs. Perhaps my next blog should explore everything we can learn from animals. But for now, heartfelt thanks to Michael and Fernando for their insights.

I’ve heard similar principles a thousand times before, even 40 years ago at an Anthony Robbins seminar, and I’ve read about it in various forms from many different sources. However, either it takes time, or Michael and Fernando explained the micro-distinctions with such precision and practical examples that it’s transforming. How I engage with the people I love is the most vital piece of our engagement.

This is not about selling shit. It’s about being present to let each of my family and friends know how deeply I care about them. Interestingly, “being present” might actually be more beneficial than blurting out the latest life-saving tip I’ve learned. It’s a subtle yet powerful shift from giving advice to truly connecting, and if I’m thoughtful enough, I might even enter at their “speed limit” — perhaps there’s another blog in that concept alone — and who knows? Maybe then, I could truly make a life-saving difference.

As I re read this it might make an interesting discussion or debate whether “golden retriever” energy works all of the time, or 90% of the time or it just feels that way. Also is it a good pattern interrupt or is it better to ask permission? I’ll let you know. Or you can let me know. Practice caring more about the people you love.

*Michael Smikun and Fernando Valencia are part of the Unblinded team.


A Post Away From Happiness

Throughout our lives, we encounter bits of wisdom—some that stick with us forever. These nuggets of knowledge can come from anywhere: a grandparent, a mentor, or a line from a book that resonates with us on a deep level. For instance, my father once told me, “As long as you are healthy, you can dig ditches and make money.” While it might not seem like the most profound statement at first, it underscored a vital truth for me—the paramount importance of health.

This simple saying from my father shaped my perspective, making it easier for me to prioritize healthy life choices. It’s a perfect example of how sometimes, the smaller sayings, not the grand declarations, are what truly change our lives.

Everyone has their own set of maxims that guide them. Perhaps this post might offer you a new one that could shift your perspective or reinforce your current path. Moreover, it’s crucial to reflect on the sayings you repeat to yourself and others. Are they positive? Do they encourage growth and happiness? If not, it might be time to let go of the negative ones.

The sayings we choose to live by can significantly influence our outlook and decisions. They can be reminders of our values and goals, helping us navigate through life’s complexities. By choosing to adopt and repeat positive and empowering phrases, we can shape a more optimistic and proactive approach to life.

Take a moment to think about the words that have impacted you. What are the sayings that have helped you the most? Sharing these can not only affirm their value in your life but also potentially inspire others. Remember, the right words at the right time can be a beacon of hope and a catalyst for change.

So, as you go about your day, consider the power of words and the impact they can have. You might just find that happiness is truly just a post away.

Your greatest skill is also your greatest curse

Title: Every Skill: A Blessing and a Curse

Every skill or trait we possess carries with it a duality that shapes our experiences—serving as both a blessing and a curse. This complex interplay influences our interactions, our achievements, and even our inner emotional landscapes.

Take, for example, the person with extraordinary height, who might excel in sports and command attention in any room they enter. Yet, the same stature that brings admiration can also bring discomfort and inconvenience, like bumping their head on doorways or struggling to find clothing that fits properly.

Similarly, consider the brilliant minds in finance who can decode markets and amass wealth. Their skill in navigating complex numerical landscapes is enviable. However, this same brilliance often requires intense focus and isolation, which can lead to a lonely existence, separated from the easy camaraderie enjoyed by others.

Sensitivity in reading others can be another double-edged sword. For those attuned to the slightest emotional shifts in people around them, this sensitivity allows an unparalleled ability to connect and empathize. However, this same trait can lead to emotional overload and hurt, as the pain of others often becomes their own.

The person who makes friends easily brings another example. Their open, trusting nature garners a wide social circle and frequent joy. Yet, it’s this same openness that can make them vulnerable to deceit, leaving them more frequently betrayed or taken advantage of than their more cautious counterparts.

These examples show that our greatest strengths can sometimes also be our weaknesses. By understanding this balance, we can better navigate the complexities of our abilities and perhaps find ways to mitigate the downsides while amplifying the positives.

In life, it’s not just about developing skills or traits but managing the inherent contradictions they bring. As we grow and evolve, the challenge is to leverage these aspects to enrich our lives, mindful of both the blessings they bestow and the curses they conceal.

Think See Feel Get it, or Got it?

Title: Think, See, Feel: How Did You Create Your Life?

The paths to realizing our desires are as varied as the individuals who walk them. Some people swear by goal-setting, meticulously planning each step towards achievement. Others advocate for visualization, believing in the power of seeing an outcome in the mind’s eye to make it a reality. Then, there are those who focus on the emotional resonance of their dreams, feeling their way into manifestation.

Consider how you acquired your last major purchase, like a car or a home. Did you list the specifications and systematically tick off boxes, or did you visualize it down to the last detail before ever stepping into it? Perhaps it was the emotional allure—the imagined scent of new upholstery or the thrill of space in a new home—that drew you in.

The process of creation in our lives can often be segmented into three phases: Think, See, and Feel.

  • Think: This is the stage of conception. It begins with an idea or a need. For instance, you realize you need a new car. You think about the kind of car that would best fit your lifestyle and budget. This is a cerebral phase, where logic plays a key role.
  • See: Next, you visualize what it would be like to own the car. Perhaps you picture yourself driving along the coast, the dashboard gleaming under the sun. Visualization can be a powerful motivator, making the intangible seem tangible.
  • Feel: Finally, you connect with the emotion of owning the car. How does it make you feel to sit behind the wheel, to know it’s yours? This emotional connection can often be the most compelling force in turning thoughts and visions into reality.

Understanding which of these resonates most with you can provide profound insights into how you shape your life. It’s not just about the methods you employ but about tuning into your natural inclinations and leveraging them.

So, how do you create your life? Is it through careful thought, vivid visualization, or deep emotional connection? Recognizing your predominant approach can help you refine it and perhaps even integrate other aspects to enhance your ability to manifest what you desire.