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20 minutes Meditating vs 23hr 40 min negativity

| johnas9000

And you expect to manifest anything? LOL, seriously think about it. If we all have 80,000 thoughts a day, how can that stand up to your itty bitty meditation? This is a no brainer, pun intended. You know we are hard wired to survive, right? You know for millions of years we were the prey animal. If every one of the thousands of your ancestors were not hard wired to “worry” you wouldnt be reading this.

Why would you expect 20 minutes, or even 90 minutes a day of meditation compare to 22 or 23 hours of negativity? Can I trademark this as my original thinking? People you need to drop the negativity to make some room for what you want. This is simple math. It is way more than 10 to 1 that would be 2 hours of meditating vs 20 hours of negativity. Yes you have negative dreams too.

Practice “awake meditation” Seriously I just googled that. Am I the only person amongst all the geniuses with millions of followers to propose this?

Ok so here it is. Assuming you have meditated, you know the instructions. If a “thought” passes, just let it go. I am proposing while you are awake, if a negative or repetitive thought passes, let it go. It should be even easier while you are awake. If it is something you absolutely have to attend to, write it down, or put it in you calendar. The other day I was dealing with some really difficult stuff I was worrying about. But I went about my day and promised myself I would think about it later around 7pm and let it go so I could enjoy a happy productive day. Get it?

Do you Brag or are you too Humble?

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I think I can safely say most people are too humble. I have met countless people that have an astonishing amount of skills, do charity work, accomplished physicians who work in free clinics. I have also heard far too many people, mostly children talk about how great they are.

Go to any Anthony Robbins seminar and I will bet, you will meet at least 1000 life coaches. Most of them are under the age of 18. What are you going to teach me? If you are a male under the age of 18 you probably can teach me 50 ways to masturbate. But I dont really think you have a lot of life experience.

So I am going to assume I am speaking to the large majority who just dont “get” who they are. Sorry to be prejudiced, but many cultures teach humility. My parents never gave a complement they thought it was crude and obnoxious.

Last night we had a billionaire fly in from Russia and his girlfriend from California to be treated by us, hmmm. Maybe I am not claiming who we are in this world with people flying in from China, Korean, royals from the Middle East. But this is not about me.

What about you? I have a friend that creates content and is all over performing and doing great work and sharing it and she just doesnt see it or say it. Truth be told, everyone has spent their time learning something. You might just be the best video game player. That might not interest you or me. But you did spend your time learning something. Again might be the words of every Star Trek episode, but you are an expert in something.

I would also try to face the truth about your upbringing. If your parents spent every day telling you how great you are, you might not have spent any time getting great. Conversely if you come from a humble culture, and you know who you really are, speak up. The world is dying to get to know you and appreciate you Dont deny us the opportunity of learning from you.

PS you know who you are. Whether you are team modest or team braggers. Whichever team you are on uplevel or be a little more quiet please. The rest of us cant see while being blinded by your false light.

Synchronicity is simply “letting go.” It’s not magic.

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It’s that simple. It’s knowing how to let go of your “stuff”. If you are busy complaining, worrying about the future, and complaining about the past, it isn’t going to happen. You will not have the peace of mind to listen to everyone you encounter each and every day. If you can let go of your stuff and be at peace you can see what is in common with everyone you meet. You see how easily you can connect. You hear ideas that are perfect for you. I am sure you have heard stories about people hiring someone they encountered casually or finding the ideal partner in a casual setting or meeting the perfect mentor. Its the legend of so many famous success stories.

None of that can happen while you are complaining about politics, inflation, your boss, your wife, your husband. Most people are only listening to the 50,000 repetitive thoughts that are on an automatic loop of self talk, including regrets and worries, that is in their heads. There is no time for you to explore all the beautiful things around you, every day, while you are mired in your own thoughts. Dont feel bad. It is estimated that everyone does that.

So maybe magic has nothing to do with the universe, the cosmos, meditation, manifesting, or prayer. Its just you freeing yourself from being a slave to your negative thoughts.

Let’s play a game, OK? You can pray, visualize, and manifest all that you want. You can go for two weeks with Joe Dispenza and a week with Anthony Robbins. But if you are still stuck in your own worries and concerns, what would happen in this scenario.

You go to your best friend’s party and meet your friend’s cousin, who just flew in from Europe. You hit it off, with great rapport. You share more about your life, your disappointments, your fears about the next election, and climate change. And you feel you are becoming closer and are happy about that.

Scenario number 2: You are at peace for whatever reason. It could be the Sedona Method with David, 30 years of psychotherapy, or Joe Dispenza. Whatever method you. chose, you are at peace. You are happy. So instead, you ask this person all about their life, their children, and their marriage. You are so at peace, you listen intently to everything they say.

After listening peacefully for a long time, they mention their father is the largest importer of sports clothing in Italy. You actually have a warehouse of unsold sporting goods, from a failed venture. He introduces you, and you get an order for a million dollars. Was that synchronicity, or was it you at peace, listening and him and loving that you gave him the present of unconditional listening?

You merely have to be at peace to notice the world around you, what is in it, and what people do. Heck, in option number one, you might have been such a complainer that the conversation ended quickly. Are you starting to get my proposal here?

I propose that it is that simple. Perhaps you need to let go of your stuff to be open to seeing and hearing all of the opportunities that are teeming around you.

I think we underestimate how important it is to let go of our problems and issues and be at peace, no matter how you do it. Stop talking to yourself and start listening, and magic will happen. It’s not magic; it’s just you, keeping your mouth shut and stopping your brain from occupying your mind with its incessant chatter, that does not allow you to hear anything but your own self talk.

Are you talking now and not even being open-minded about what I am writing and what you are reading? The ability to really listen is so rare because of the combination of negative self-talk, endless mental masturbation, and constant chatter in the brain.

There is so much to notice when you “let go” and are quiet. When your brain’s incessant chatter is not occupying every second of your life.

Stop talking to yourself and start listening. Period. Magic will happen; call it what you will. I am not ruling out the possibility that great ideas come from the subconscious or the universe, but I am saying that its absolutely certain that whether it is supernaturally or pragmatically, the door is closed when you are occupied with your own self talk.

Your gut is smarter than your brain

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To be clear it might just be the “energy’. There are a lot of different names people use for different energies, like Zeus or Goddess energy. Suffice it to say. When you are at peace and calm you are 10,000% more likely to make a great decision. Other wonderful things happen as well, when you are at peace. You can listen, attentively, you can learn, you can come up with your own ideas, and novel concepts about pretty much anything. The whole universe is open to you when you are at peace.

I am talking about drop dead peace. No thoughts no mind. You dont have to meditate to get there. You merely have to operate as if you were meditating. So any “thought” that comes into your brain, simply let it pass, just like you do when you meditate. In this context I am using the word, thought, to describe the 50,000 BS thoughts you have every day. This way, you only leave room for space and the possibility for real ideation or creation to spring forth. Its kind of like me writing this.

I am not all wrapped up in my problems. I still have them and I actually will come up with even better solutions when I step away. I was just talking to a new friend and as we peacefully spoke it occurred to me, even we could collaborate since there is an intersection in what we both do. Actually there are a lot of intersections. But you dont get to have that experience, when your “conscious” brain is in charge. By the way all of our vocabulary sucks. Nobody did a fantastic voyage into your brain to determine where even thought comes from. Sure you can do an MRI and see what part of your brain lights up when you are doing math vs verbal exercises, but does anyone know where anything comes from? Who even came up with the concept of conscious and subconscious thinking? Yes I know that certain functions are controlled automatically. But where do true original ideas come from? Where does spirit, belief, religion come from?

For all we know all of the inventions of this world came from aliens, or God. You wouldnt know because you are rarely at peace. OK, maybe not you because you are reading this and you have a desire to learn, you are inquisitive. But most people are too busy regurgitating the 45,000 negative thoughts from yesterday. So there is literally no room for what I like to call thinking. The word thinking should be reserved for creating, ideating coming up with original ideas and thoughts. Simply vomiting the same thoughts you had yesterday in no way should be even called thinking. You are merely, actually hurting yourself.

Chew on that one for a moment. What you think is thinking is actually self harm. There is absolutely zero benefit to regurgitating and or worrying about the same thoughts you worried about yesterday. If you want to set aside time to brainstorm about a particular concern, Great! But in between now and then what is the purpose of general worrying other than self harm?

Want to read more? John Hopkins, about the ENS ( enteric nervous system) where 200 million nerve cells reside. Going with your gut? …”gone with your gut to make a decision or felt “butterflies in your stomach” when nervous, you’re likely getting signals from an unexpected source: your second brain.” Science is being revolutionized about the way we think. These are not just my ideas.

How about Harvard 2023 The bacteria in your gut will affect your mood and happiness. To quote “study that also found specific bacterial link to happiness”

Ok you can google gut feelings and get 94,500,000 results. So you are going to have to go with my thinking on the subject. Or let me know when you get done reading them all. Just like your subconscious has all of the information so does your gut. In fact we know that your brain is communicating with you gut so there is reason to believe that a gut feeling is not silly, it is rooted and comes from all of the information you have.

I go back to my original assertion. Even reading the complicated articles. It would make sense that at peace you are probably getting great information. If you are frenetic and unsettled, that is not a gut feeling. That is an all too familiar feeling to pretty much all of us. It is nervous excitement. It might even be knowing that there is an unacceptable risk involved. The energy feels very different from, the feeling of knowing. And knowing might not even come from the gut, but it certainly feels safe and certain and “knowing”

You know what I am talking about, Why dont you look back on your life and the biggest decisions you made, how they turned out and how you felt about them. I doubt there was rational certainty about bad decisions. I also noticed for me there was a nervous excitement about all of my bad decisions. How about you?

Give a Man a fish and you will destroy him

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Did I get your attention? So maybe that is a bit extreme but is it? Lets do a tale of 2 people they could be men or even children. So if you give person 1 a fish, great, he eats it. The other one, number 2, is taught how to fish so he is set for life, he or she can not only feed themself but they can start a business. They have learned. the value of hard work. They understand the value of creation. They will learn how to create an action and receive a benefit or causation. They will learn self reliance. They will learn to be independent. They will not ever have to depend on anyone. You will have begun on the path of self reliance. What about the satisfaction of accomplishment? Isnt that one of the greatest joys?

Give a man a fish vs teach a man to fish is a bit trite. It doesnt explain the cascade of benefits of learning how to take care of yourself. In fact there is so much that goes into learning how to fish. I dont fish but I can guess you have to learn a sequence of actions. you have to buy the right kind of pole and the reel, and the line, decide where to fish. What time to fish. There is so much to learn. I even heard Dean Graziosi describe winning a tournament by observing where the fish were and whether they could see you approach. There is a plethora of things to learn. 

What about patience? Its not like being on your ipad playing a game where you are rewarded every 30 seconds with a “win” or a dopamine hit. PS person number 2 is fat and happy eating the fish you gave to him in fact they literally might be fat as well because they didnt expend any energy to get their dinner. They didnt go outside to get fresh air. They didnt get the benefit of sunshine and vitamin D. Person A might have been fishing with a friend and enjoying emotional rapport. Person B is probably sitting home playing on their ipad.

And it gets so much worse. One only need to go back to the sixties when Lyndon Johnson began the great society welfare programs. They destroyed so many lives and families of black and white people alike.

WE ARE HUMANS. We are hard wired to expend as little energy as possible to survive. That is our primitive coding to literally survive. Listen to Andrew Huberman and other neuroscientists. They will go as far as saying even when it comes to thinking let alone physical exertion. They say your brain will take the path of least resistance when it comes to thinking so dont make your marketing to the point where its difficult to decide. This is huge on every level from physical to emotional. So stop destroying peoples lives by not allowing them to grow.  PREPUBLICATION DRAFT

Sales 101 (and life) Ask Questions Then shut up!

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I segued here from my post on lying. I go to the extreme even in sales situations. I tell the person trying to sell me something “I am going to make both of our lives easier, I will tell you which technologies I have, which ones I dont have how much money I have to spend. I am going to be completely transparent with you. This way even you will know if its a fit. If it is, I should have bought it yesterday. If it isnt, we dont need to waste each other’s time. How does that sound?” Its the truth anyway. Why go through a silly long presentation? But most people will not tell you unless you ask, and then shut up and listen.

I have a funny story about that. Back when I was President of Quality House of Graphics we spent over $2 million a year with Fuji film products. Agfa came in to make a presentation. They brought in well over a dozen people from all over the country to make the presentation. They had carefully orchestrated the presentation. It was so long ago it was with overhead slides.

I didnt know, it and I was late for a lunch with Movado, who gave me over a million a year in business. I got dragged into the room. I politely explained the situation and said I would do my best to help. So I went through their slides said, yes, 20,000 employees, blah blah quickly ripped through them all in 2 minutes found one that talked about a technology that could save us almost a million a year and said “why dont we focus on this? If it works its perfect for us” and left.

I left and later learned they were all in shell shock at the diner licking their wounds. Since they flew in from all over the country and had a carefully scripted and timed presentation. Come on people who doesnt do a needs study? Who doesnt ask a million questions to find out what someone wants before they present? Thats sales 101, or maybe it isnt. My friend Steve Giglio once did a sales seminar for our company, Quality House of Graphics decades ago. He is a genius and his training and method were explained over 2 days. It was $5000 back then, which was probably 30 years ago. I will summarize in one sentence my memory. Sorry Steve, this is what I remembered, but also how masterfully it worked.

He said ask a million questions and dont even try to present at the same meeting. You have to go back, study, gather and prepare a presentation, based on the plethora of facts that you gathered. As luck would have it, shortly thereafter I had a referral. True story. I had work from Saks Fifth Avenue, and was referred to the woman who was the production manager to buy print related materials at Paul Stuart.

So I met the woman from Paul Stuart, and I proceeded to ask questions, and quickly ran out. I then asked questions that were considered a no no in our industry. I asked what she liked and didnt like about her current supplier. I asked how many days it took to deliver, what their shipping department was like, how was their customer service people. How was their night shift. I held my breath, and I asked for her current suppliers pricing. I asked if they charged overtime. It was starting to get ridiculous. I asked so many personal questions not normally asked or shared in that situation.

The next day I got a call from my client from Saks Fifth Avenue. I held my breath. I thought I was in trouble. No one asks the other companies pricing. That is the whole purpose of three bids. And I asked so many other inappropriate rude questions. She said her friend told her she never met anyone ever that was so interested in her business. She was so impressed that I got the account. Fast forward to this week. Some people are slow and need to hear it 1000 times. Actually how many times have you heard something great, but it took more than once for you to use it?

I also have the disadvantage of being successful. So when you are successful 90% of the time, you dont think you have anything to learn. I keep hearing others quote dismal numbers like 20 to 30%. But I am also recognizing the distinctions. As my friends from Unblinded pointed out you cant skip a step.

As I answer phones for our cosmetic practice I always make friends to a fault, literally. Most conversations end with ” I cant wait to meet you” But rapport is only one part of the equation. Asking questions and minding your tone of voice is monumental. I have too much energy. Yes I convey all of our experience and firsts in the industry, and 90% of the people get the transfer of enthusiasm, and my desire to truly look out for their best interest, as their best friend.

This week I had a very different phone call. I might have to take the recordings and put them on Youtube to really contrast the two styles. So the call this week went more like this. It was Saturday when I called back the inquiry. I asked permission if it was OK that we spoke at that time.(that is an important step). Then I asked what procedures she had done in the past and shut up. I was tempted many times to offer relevant information to what she was saying, but I bit my tongue. She stopped, a number of times, but each time I waited three to five seconds to ensure she shared everything she wanted to share. Many times she had a lot more to say.

When she was truly done, ( I waited more than 7 seconds), I then explained what we offered that would align with her goals. We got agreement that an in person consult was the gold standard. To be honest at the beginning of the call there were so many questions, I dont think my old style would have worked to help her get the benefit of our experience to get the most effective treatment. She could have easily been swayed by one of the sexy new Med Spas that ironically dont have any experienced people to answer the phones, or offer the consults or deliver the treatments. In fact they dont even have the stronger more effective technologies, because they dont have the best technicians which would require hundred thousand dollar salaries. That is not their business model. They have a bunch of pleasant people that smile a lot and dont get paid much because they dont have any experience. I know every one of us have over 20 years of experience and I was doing her a favor by modulating my voice, which gave her the assurance and comfort to move forward vs my over the top enthusiasm that might be confused with uncertainty and trying too hard.

There is a lot to learn if you want to go from 90 to 100%. For those of us who already love people and want to do right by them.

So it took a lot of time for me to make these slight micro distinctions and minor changes. Funny, my friends at unblinded claim they have a lot of extremely successful people that they helped go from 90 to 99%. But I still also remember my lesson from Steve Giglio. I have to see what he is teaching today. I cant imagine how much better it must be refined over more than 20 years. But I will never forget his over the top questioning. I remember when I worked with him, he was mandatory training for all senior level American Express executives.

PS It just might work with your husband or your wife, assuming they are human. Dont answer that question. I know what you are thinking. Everyone wants to feel seen heard and understood.

A program not saved can not be restored

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A mind/ pattern or program not saved can not be restored

Sorry if I am being redundant here, but I think this is the most important thing I can teach you and sometimes hearing something differently finally gives you that aha moment.

“A perfectly functioning program not saved can not be restored.” john aslanian

“A perfectly functioning human will eventually malfunction and will need to be restored”

If your brain is a computer, which it is, and you finally get the program to run right,
why wouldn’t you save it?

So lets say you are having the best year of your life, maybe its running every day or yoga or walking, or eggs for breakfast, or a shake for breakfast, or a new multivitamin or a self improvement tape, or getting 20 minutes of natural sun light every day.
Its probably a combination of a lot of things that truly resonate for you.

So here is the problem, you don’t save it. You don’t even write it down.
Three months later, heck even a few weeks later, it all falls apart, and you are miserable,
and you have no idea what you were doing when everything was going perfectly. That is because there was no pain involved, so your brain doesn’t remember.
You were feeling great. Your brain is not wired to remember normal happy feelings.
It is wired to remember pain, so you don’t stick your hand in fire. Well it pretty much ends there.
It doesn’t even remember to not date the kind of assholes that would beat you or are alcoholics.(maybe because there was also some pleasure there, but thats another subject)

We are as complicated and different and opaque as a computer program.

I wish I could do it for you. Heck if I could I would make billions and we would both be very happy. But we are all different. There is eat for your blood type, what I eat might be bad for you.

So I write down EVERYTHING; what I ate, what supplements I took and what I did.
Sure enough a few months go by, and I am off track. So as with any word processing program; word or pages or excel, I go to edit find/replace and I look for “feel great” You would write that or your own code word on those days.

Wow, you might find, “I forgot the week I felt great I was going to sleep before midnight every night and or I was eating eggs for breakfast every day.” Sometimes its that simple, You could even be allergic to what makes me feel great, so you have to do you.

But you have no prayer of reloading the good software to your life if you have no idea what you were doing to make yourself happy.
And I can’t do it for you, I am not doing yoga or eating vegan or any of the things that might make YOU feel good.

But I can tell you to write it down. You will call me to thank me. Its the single simplest thing you can do to change your life.

Its probably a little bit more like this.

You are the user. You are operating off of the software. There might be faults in the operating system that needs to be addressed. I think I am little bit ADHD. I have never sat still for more than 40 minutes in my life. So maybe I need to focus a bit more on omega 3s, DHA, and supplements for my operating system. And lets not neglect the hardware. If we are constantly pouring alcohol on the hardware, dont be surprised if it doesnt work.

But it all goes back to the software. Because everything you do that you write down, that causes you to run perfectly, will fix the operating system, and even the hardware. There are supplements that will help your liver, your brain, your blood sugar, your gut. So its actually easy to fix everything with software that helps you run smooth. Some of it, you might stumble upon by accident. You dont have to understand it. Something as simple as eggs for breakfast. You dont have to know that its a complete protein, or that it is full of omega 3s, DHA, the perfect feel good fatty acid for you brain, or that it has choline in it, thats good for your brain. You just have to notice if it makes you feel good. And the same goes for whatever else you do and eat throughout the day.

Its that simple study YOU and what makes you feel good write it down as YOUR program, Save it so you can reload it when necessary.

A Post Away From Happiness

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Throughout our lives, we encounter bits of wisdom—some that stick with us forever. These nuggets of knowledge can come from anywhere: a grandparent, a mentor, or a line from a book that resonates with us on a deep level. For instance, my father once told me, “As long as you are healthy, you can dig ditches and make money.” While it might not seem like the most profound statement at first, it underscored a vital truth for me—the paramount importance of health.

My way of saying it is slightly different. “Your health is your wealth is trite and stupid, without it you are dead or in so much pain you wish you were dead”

Everyone has their own set of maxims that guide them. Moreover, it’s crucial to reflect on the sayings you repeat to yourself and others. I hear all too often negative ones. “Its all rigged” ” you have to have money to make money” “its impossible to get ahead” ” the economy sucks” Are they positive? Do they encourage growth and happiness? If not, it might be time to let go of the negative ones.

The sayings we choose to live by can significantly influence our outlook and decisions. They can be reminders of our values and goals, helping us navigate through life’s complexities. By choosing to adopt and repeat positive and empowering phrases, we can shape a more optimistic and proactive approach to life.

Take a moment to think about the words that have impacted you. What are the sayings that have helped you the most? Sharing these can not only affirm their value in your life but also potentially inspire others. Remember, the right words at the right time can be a beacon of hope and a catalyst for change.

So, as you go about your day, consider the power of words and the impact they can have. You might just find that happiness is truly just a post away.