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Are You Choosing Your Day or Is Your Monkey Brain in Control?

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We all have those days. You start with good intentions, maybe even drink a nootropic beverage to boost your focus. But without a clear plan in mind, you find yourself drifting towards the TV, small cleaning chores, playing video games, or scrolling through social media for hours. What happened? Your monkey brain, driven by dopamine cues and habits, took over.

The Monkey Brain and Dopamine

The monkey brain is a term often used to describe the part of our mind that seeks immediate gratification and jumps from one distraction to another. It’s heavily influenced by dopamine, the neurotransmitter responsible for pleasure and reward. When we engage in activities that are enjoyable or provide a quick hit of satisfaction, dopamine is released, reinforcing those behaviors and making us more likely to repeat them.

This is why, without a clear plan or focus, we tend to drift towards activities that are easy and instantly gratifying. Watching TV, tidying up, playing video games, or endlessly scrolling through social media are common go-to’s because they require minimal effort and provide quick dopamine rewards.

The Importance of Visualizing Your Day

To counteract the influence of the monkey brain, it’s crucial to visualize and plan your day. When you have a clear idea of what you want to accomplish, you set a direction for your energy and focus. Here’s how visualizing your day can help:

  1. Provides Structure: A visualized plan gives your day a structure, making it easier to stay on track and avoid distractions.
  2. Boosts Productivity: With a clear outline of tasks, you’re more likely to dive into meaningful work rather than defaulting to easy, habitual activities.
  3. Reduces Stress: Knowing what to expect can reduce the anxiety that comes with uncertainty, helping you to feel more in control.
  4. Increases Satisfaction: Accomplishing planned tasks provides a sense of achievement and boosts your overall satisfaction with the day.

The Drift Towards Dopamine

Even with good habits, such as daily running or regular exercise, it’s easy to fall into the dopamine trap when there’s no specific plan. For 20 years, I’ve been saying I need to find a replacement for running. Yet, without a structured goal or a clear vision of what that replacement should look like, I often find myself drifting back to less productive activities.

This isn’t unique to me. Many people mindlessly engage in activities like cleaning, arranging, or organizing when they don’t have a clear plan. Or, they might find themselves endlessly scrolling through social media feeds, seeking the instant gratification of likes, comments, and new posts. While these tasks can be satisfying and provide a quick sense of accomplishment, they often serve as distractions from more meaningful work.

Are You Choosing, or Is Your Monkey Brain Choosing?

The key question is: Are you actively choosing how to spend your day, or is your monkey brain making the choices for you? The monkey brain will always gravitate towards whatever is easy and immediately rewarding. This could be something as simple as arranging your makeup, cleaning out a closet, or scrolling through social media. These tasks, while seemingly productive, are often ways to avoid more challenging or important work.

Strategies to Take Control of Your Day

  1. Start with Visualization: Spend a few minutes each morning visualizing your day. Outline your key tasks and goals. Imagine yourself completing them successfully. This sets a mental map and prepares you to follow through.
  2. Set Clear Intentions: Write down your top priorities for the day. Keep this list visible to remind yourself of your goals and keep your monkey brain in check.
  3. Break Tasks into Small Steps: Large tasks can feel overwhelming, leading to procrastination. Break them down into smaller, manageable steps to make them less daunting.
  4. Use Time Blocks: Allocate specific time blocks for different activities. This can help you stay focused on one task at a time and reduce the temptation to drift.
  5. Limit Dopamine-Inducing Distractions: Be aware of the activities that provide quick dopamine hits, like social media, and limit them. For example, set a timer for breaks to prevent them from turning into long TV sessions or social media marathons.
  6. Reflect and Adjust: At the end of the day, reflect on what went well and where you drifted. Adjust your strategies accordingly for the next day.
  7. Establish Routines: Routines provide a framework that can keep you on track, especially when your willpower is low. Incorporate healthy habits into your daily schedule to build a foundation of productive behavior.

Conclusion

Our monkey brains are powerful and will always seek the path of least resistance and the highest dopamine reward. Without a clear plan, we’re likely to drift into easy and habitual activities, losing sight of our more meaningful goals. Social media, in particular, can be a significant distraction, pulling us away from productive tasks with its constant flow of dopamine hits.

By visualizing your day, setting clear intentions, and creating structured routines, you can take control and make conscious choices about how to spend your time. Remember, it’s about actively choosing your actions rather than letting your monkey brain dictate them. With intention and focus, you can navigate your day with purpose and productivity.

Procrastination: A Doctor who has written 7 books knows nothing about it.

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I’m listening to all these experts, and it’s clear—they don’t have a procrastination bone in their bodies. They are doctors with degrees and have authored multiple books. Easy tasks for a procrastinator, right? Not exactly. You need to hear from someone who truly understands the struggle—someone like a crack addict, the ultimate dopamine seeker, who knows nothing about postponing pleasure to get something done.

Now, crack was after my time. I stopped using drugs in 1980, 44 years ago, long before crack and even before Richard Pryor’s infamous freebasing accident. So, I’m as close as you’re going to get to an expert.

From the Lowest of the Low to Success

How did I go from the lowest point to becoming extremely successful, making nearly a million dollars a year in commissions, and running a $30 million-a-year company? I also ran for Congress—both the United States Congress and subsequently the New Jersey Congress. I transmitted the first PDF advertisement to Time Magazine after contributing to the PDF standards. Then I founded and managed a non-surgical cosmetic office that has delivered over 20,000 successful treatments and has become an international destination with patients flying in weekly.

I could go on, but I find people who boast about their accomplishments boring and in need of a shrink. Just know that I was the lowest form of life and reached reasonable levels of success. Now, let’s segue into what worked for me and, more importantly, what can work for you.

What Works for You?

Assuming you’ve managed to prepare or order a meal and aren’t sitting in your own mess, you have some level of motivation to get things done. Maybe your dishes are piled to the ceiling, but at least you made a meal or ordered one.

I’m pondering this today because, after listening to all the experts—doctors, best-selling authors—I’ve heard a few good ideas but nothing close to an aha moment. So, it’s time for me to tackle this topic.

Let’s Get Down to It

  1. Just Get Started: One expert suggested working for five minutes. I agree. For me, during tax season, I didn’t set a time limit. I just promised to start, and an hour flew by. Don’t let fear of failure stop you. It will get done imperfectly, as all things do. Promise yourself one minute or whatever works for you. Just get started.
  2. Good Procrastination for Energy: Huh? Sometimes, I clean or clear clutter to open up space and get started. Clearing clutter can release energy, but you know when it crosses the line into procrastination. This isnt the time to vacuum the whole house.
  3. Clear Your Desk: Put papers into one pile, Apps like Getting Things Done or Things recommend just clearing the desk and making a pile without sorting or reading each paper. Open space and eliminate distractions.
  4. Time of Day: Identify when you’re most productive. Telling someone when to do something is idiotic. You might be most productive at 6 am, 10 am, 2 pm, 8 pm, or 10 pm. Study yourself—this is my number one rule for life.
  5. Study Yourself Again: When are you successful at getting things done versus procrastinating? Is it after your second cup of coffee at 8 am or 10 am? Is it when you’ve had protein and fat for breakfast? For me, eggs work best—they provide all the amino acids, fatty acids and choline for the brain.
  6. Don’t Waste Your Most Productive Time: Do the hardest mental tasks when you have your best energy. Don’t clean the house during your magic hours of productivity. That’s a rote task you can do anytime.
  7. Understand Your Task: I’m addressing people procrastinating on mental tasks that require research and trial and error. If you’re procrastinating on physical cleaning, the rules might be different. You might want to reverse the rules and do a little paperwork to break up house cleaning.
  8. Celebrate Your Successes: There’s a book called The One Minute Manager that suggests catching even the worst worker doing something right and congratulating them. If you’re treating yourself as the “worst worker” or procrastinator, celebrate your successes. Notice what led to the moment when you started on your taxes. Was it after a good meal? How long after eating? What supplements did you take?
  9. Different Forms of Procrastination: Eustress is good stress, coined by Hans Selye in 1976. I’m inventing “euprocrastination”—beneficial procrastination.
  10. Euprocrastination (Good Procrastination):
    • A 5-minute exercise break.
    • A 5-minute cleaning break.
    • A 5-minute clutter clearing break.
    • A 5-minute walk.
    • 5 minutes of stretching.
    • 5 minutes of meditating.
    • 5 minutes of visualizing how good you’ll feel when it’s done.
    • A 5-minute break for water or a protein-based snack.
    • A 5-minute important phone call with a timer.
    • 5 minutes of “task changing.”
  1. Task Changing: You have to do your taxes, but you also need to schedule your yearly physical, send out a client invoice, and call your mother-in-law. Bringing a number 2 priority item to the forefront isn’t the end of the world. For some, it helps you get the hard task done. For others, it might lead you down a rabbit hole.
  2. Avoid Rabbit Holes: You know when you’re going down a rabbit hole. Don’t use replying to emails or Facebook comments as an excuse to procrastinate. Be aware of what you’re doing and stay focused.
  3. Study Yourself: Did I say that already? Repeat it. No one knows you better than you. We can all offer suggestions, but only you know what works for you and what you might still be hiding.

Final Thoughts

If you take nothing else away, remember to study yourself and be aware. You are the expert on you. Recognize what leads to procrastination and what leads to productivity. Great suggestions are everywhere, but only you can determine which ones apply to you.

Unless you’re Tinker Bell, Jiminy Cricket, or Kazoo from the Flintstones, no one knows exactly what you’re doing except for you. I may be repeating myself, but it’s important to remember. This might lead to our next blog. Dont ask anyone about something specific. No one was there.

Study Your Successes: The Key to Navigating Life’s Challenges

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Life is a journey full of ups and downs, moments of triumph, and periods of struggle. One crucial aspect of navigating this journey is understanding not only our mistakes but also our successes. Too often, we focus on what went wrong, driven by the pain of our failures. However, by studying our successes, we can better prepare ourselves for when life inevitably throws us off track.

The Lesson in Pain

We learn from our mistakes because of the pain they cause. Put your hand in fire once, and you’ll remember the lesson forever. Pain serves as a powerful teacher, ingraining the memory of our errors deeply within us. However, this focus on pain means we often overlook the equally valuable lessons our successes can teach us.

The Mystery of Sudden Failures

How many times have you felt like everything was going perfectly, only to have it all fall apart unexpectedly? The train falls off the tracks, and you’re left wondering why. Without understanding what contributed to your previous successes, it’s challenging to pinpoint what might have gone wrong. This lack of insight can leave you feeling lost and frustrated.

The Importance of Self-Reflection

To avoid these pitfalls, it’s essential to study your successes as diligently as you analyze your mistakes. One practical way to do this is by keeping a diary or an Excel sheet where you annotate moments when you “feel great” or note any significant achievements. Use keywords that resonate with you and that you will remember.

Creating a Success Log

When life does go off course, you can refer back to this log. Use the “find” function to search for those key moments of success and identify patterns. Perhaps you’ll discover that regular exercise, a morning walk, a particular supplement, or abstaining from TV were part of your routine during successful periods. The possibilities are endless, but without documentation, these insights remain hidden.

The Power of Positive Habits

By studying what you were doing right, you can recreate those conditions. Understanding the habits, routines, and activities that contributed to your success gives you a roadmap to follow. It’s about recognizing that success isn’t just about avoiding pain; it’s also about cultivating the positive habits that lead to thriving.

A Call to Action

Start today by creating your success log. Write down what you did, how you felt, and any small details that might seem insignificant now but could be crucial later. Study yourself when you are successful. This proactive approach will equip you with the knowledge and tools to get back on track faster when challenges arise.

Embrace a Balanced Perspective

Remember, life is a balance of learning from pain and celebrating triumphs. By giving equal weight to your successes, you ensure a more comprehensive understanding of yourself and your journey. This balanced perspective will empower you to navigate life’s inevitable ups and downs with greater confidence and resilience.

Conclusion

Study your successes or you will have no idea what to do when the train falls off the tracks. Pain teaches us what to avoid, but understanding our successes shows us what to embrace. Keep track of your positive moments, reflect on them, and use them as a guide to maintain and replicate those successes. Your future self will thank you.

The statement, “You don’t have to be loved by everyone,”

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offers a profound insight into personal freedom and self-acceptance. It underlines the unrealistic nature of seeking universal approval and the importance of focusing on genuine connections that truly enrich our lives.

In a world often dominated by social media and a culture of comparison, it’s easy to fall into the trap of measuring self-worth through the lens of others’ approval. However, embracing the fact that not everyone has to love you can be liberating. It allows individuals to live more authentically, making decisions based on personal values and desires rather than catering to the expectations of others. This perspective fosters a healthier self-image and encourages relationships built on real affinity and mutual respect, rather than superficial approval.

The pursuit of being universally liked can be exhausting and ultimately unfulfilling. People have diverse opinions and preferences, and that’s what adds richness to human interactions. Accepting that some might not resonate with who you are or what you believe in is not a reflection of one’s worth but a natural part of human diversity.

This realization encourages a focus on the quality of relationships rather than quantity. It cultivates resilience, as one learns to face criticism or rejection without it diminishing their sense of self. Ultimately, understanding that you don’t need everyone’s love to lead a fulfilling life empowers individuals to pursue happiness on their own terms, fostering a sense of inner peace and confidence.

Why everyone seeks approval and how difficult it is to not seek it. It is sabotaging i in business. Obviously salesmen wouldnt be paid so highly if the biggest fear isnt public speaking but rejection

The human desire for approval is deeply ingrained, often rooted in our evolutionary past where social acceptance was crucial for survival. This longing for acceptance and fear of rejection can be traced back to our ancestors, who lived in small, interdependent groups where being ostracized could mean life or death. In the modern era, although the stakes are different, the psychological imprint remains. Many people still intensely crave social approval and fear rejection, which can profoundly impact personal and professional behavior.

The Psychological Basis of Seeking Approval

Psychologically, seeking approval is linked to our self-esteem and identity. People often interpret approval as a validation of their worth or ideas, which can boost their self-confidence and sense of belonging. Conversely, rejection can trigger feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. This drive for acceptance can influence many aspects of life, from personal relationships to career choices.

The Challenge of Not Seeking Approval

Choosing not to seek approval is a challenging path, primarily because it goes against these deep-seated psychological tendencies. It requires one to develop a strong sense of self that is not dependent on others’ perceptions. This involves cultivating self-awareness, self-acceptance, and the resilience to withstand criticism and rejection. It can be particularly tough in environments that constantly evaluate and judge performance, such as workplaces or social media platforms.

The Impact in Business

In business, the need for approval and fear of rejection can be both a motivating factor and a potential pitfall. On one hand, these emotions can drive individuals to perform at their best, innovate, and improve customer satisfaction. On the other hand, an excessive fear of rejection can lead to risk aversion, stress, and decision paralysis. Professionals might avoid necessary but potentially unpopular decisions, or fail to innovate due to fear of criticism.

Sales and Rejection

The role of a salesperson exemplifies the high stakes of seeking approval in a business context. Sales professionals often face rejection directly and repeatedly, which can be emotionally draining. Yet, their effectiveness and their compensation often hinge on how well they can manage and transcend this fear of rejection. The high value placed on skilled salespeople underlines the broader business challenge: navigating the delicate balance between seeking approval to drive success and becoming overly reliant on it to the detriment of personal and organizational goals.

Concluding Thoughts

While seeking approval is a natural human inclination, learning to moderate this need and handle rejection with grace is crucial for personal growth and professional success. In business, recognizing when the fear of rejection is hindering progress is vital. Cultivating a culture that encourages risk-taking and views rejection as a step towards success rather than a setback can help individuals and organizations thrive. By reframing rejection and reducing the stigma associated with it, everyone from top executives to frontline salespeople can achieve a healthier, more productive approach to their roles and responsibilities.

how about rejection and love

Rejection in the context of love and relationships can be one of the most emotionally challenging experiences. It strikes at the core of our desires for connection, belonging, and acceptance. Understanding and managing rejection in love requires both emotional resilience and an appreciation for personal growth.

The Emotional Impact of Rejection in Love

When someone experiences rejection in a romantic context—whether it’s unrequited feelings, a breakup, or even a failed marriage—the pain can be profound. This is because romantic relationships are deeply personal and involve a significant emotional investment. The rejection can trigger feelings of worthlessness, loneliness, and grief.

Psychologically, romantic rejection activates the same pathways in the brain that physical pain does. This means that the heartache of a breakup or the sting of unrequited love is not just metaphorical; it’s a tangible form of distress that can have both psychological and physiological effects.

Navigating Rejection in Love

Navigating rejection in a romantic context requires a focus on self-care and personal development. Here are a few strategies:

  1. Self-Reflection: Use the experience as an opportunity for self-reflection. Consider what the relationship and its end can teach about what you value and need in a partnership.
  2. Emotional Expression: Allow yourself to grieve and express your emotions in healthy ways. This might include talking with friends, writing in a journal, or engaging in creative activities like music or art.
  3. Building Resilience: Cultivate resilience by focusing on your strengths and achievements outside of the relationship. Engaging in activities that build self-esteem and confidence can help mitigate feelings of rejection.
  4. Seeking Support: Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a professional therapist. Sharing your feelings can lighten your emotional load and provide you with perspectives that affirm your self-worth.
  5. Moving Forward: Eventually, focus on moving forward. Engage in new activities, meet new people, and open yourself to new experiences. While this doesn’t mean rushing into another relationship, it does mean staying open to the possibilities of life.

The Positive Aspects of Rejection in Love

While painful, rejection can also be a catalyst for personal growth. It can lead to deeper self-awareness, stronger resilience, and a better understanding of one’s needs and desires in a relationship. Learning to handle rejection with grace and maturity can also improve future relationships by encouraging clearer communication, better emotional management, and more realistic expectations.

In summary, while rejection in love is a universally difficult experience, it also offers valuable lessons and opportunities for emotional development. By approaching it with the right mindset, one can navigate through this challenging time and emerge stronger and more prepared for future connections.

If you are what you think then when you dont think you dont exist.

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This is my corollary to Wayne Dyer”‘s “If you are what you do then when you dont you arent.” It would seem like most people are running their life like that. Try challenging anyone to let go of their thoughts for a day. They will accuse you of being crazy. I am merely suggesting that you conduct just one day without stupid repetitive thoughts. What is the point of being alive it it is only to repeat the same stupid thoughts you had yesterday. Everyone hangs on to every thought for dear life. Perhaps dementia will be the only time they are free from repetitive thoughts.

I had a day of no thoughts a few months ago. It was a Sunday and I challenged myself to have a day with no “thoughts”. Just like when you meditate. Anytime a thought came up that was one of the 90,000 from yesterday or any days before, literally any previous thought was let go. I only allowed original thoughts or creative ideas for the whole day. It was spooky. Who was I anyway? Arent we what we think? By the end of the day I was wondering if I was going to die. It didnt make any sense to no longer identify with this body this life, these problems. Maybe I understand why it is so hard to let go of our repetitive thoughts. There is comfort in identifying even with your bills. It reminds you of who you are and what you have done.

But I would maintain that all creative thinking comes from “no mind”. How many times have you forgot about something only for the solution to pop into your head. That goes for complex new ideas as well as simply finding your keys or remembering a person’s name.

I played with my friend ChatGpt to see what they thought.

We started with Wayne Dyers famous one that I have remembered,

If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t” delves into the concept of identity and its relationship with action. Let’s break it down:

  1. Identity and Action: The phrase suggests that our identity is closely tied to our actions or what we do. This implies that our sense of self, how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us, is shaped by our behavior, choices, and activities.
  2. Absence of Action and Identity: When it says “when you don’t, you aren’t,” it implies that when we’re not actively engaged in doing something, we’re somehow lacking in identity or essence. In other words, our identity is not static but rather dynamic, dependent on our ongoing actions and engagements.
  3. Implication of Inactivity: There’s an underlying suggestion that inactivity or lack of action leads to a kind of existential void or loss of self. This can be interpreted in various ways depending on the context. For example, in a professional context, if someone’s identity is strongly tied to their job or career, being unemployed or not actively pursuing their profession might lead to a sense of loss or uncertainty about their identity.
  4. Critique: While the statement highlights the link between action and identity, it can also be seen as limiting or reductive. Identity is a complex interplay of various factors including personal values, beliefs, relationships, and experiences, not solely determined by what one does. Additionally, it doesn’t account for the value of introspection, rest, or activities that might not be traditionally seen as productive but still contribute to one’s sense of self.

I think Wayne Dyer was speaking to those of us who identify with our jobs. So then when you retire who are you? You can go even further with that into all of your relationships. The saddest thing is when a parent loses a child. But isnt it the same with all of our relationships? You lose each one of those identities if the person you are in relationship with no longer exists. Ok too dark, but we can write a whole book on that.

You Are What you Think

Overall, the statement prompts reflection on how we define ourselves, how our actions shape our identity, and the implications of inactivity on our sense of self.

Then moved on to “You are what you think” expands the idea of identity beyond just actions to include thoughts and mental processes. Here’s how we can elaborate on this concept:

  1. Cognitive Identity: This statement suggests that our identity is not only shaped by our actions but also by our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. It implies that the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us is influenced by our cognitive processes.
  2. Self-Perception: What we think about ourselves, our abilities, our worth, and our place in the world contributes to our sense of identity. Positive thoughts can lead to a confident and empowered self-perception, while negative thoughts can undermine self-esteem and create a sense of inadequacy.
  3. Impact on Behavior: Our thoughts have a profound influence on our behavior. What we think often translates into how we act. For example, someone who believes they are capable and worthy is more likely to take on challenges and pursue their goals, whereas someone who doubts themselves may hold back and avoid opportunities.
  4. Internal Dialogue: The statement also draws attention to the ongoing internal dialogue we have with ourselves. This internal dialogue can be supportive and affirming or critical and self-defeating, shaping our perceptions and actions accordingly.
  5. Mindfulness and Self-Awareness: Embracing the idea “you are what you think” emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and self-awareness. By paying attention to our thoughts and actively choosing to cultivate positive, constructive thinking patterns, we can shape a healthier and more resilient sense of self.
  6. Challenge and Growth: Recognizing the power of thoughts in shaping identity also opens up avenues for personal growth and transformation. By challenging negative thought patterns and cultivating more positive and empowering beliefs, individuals can redefine their identity and navigate life with greater confidence and fulfillment.

In essence, “you are what you think” underscores the profound influence of our thoughts on our identity, behavior, and overall well-being, highlighting the importance of cultivating a positive and empowering mindset. Maybe this is why we think incessantly and why 90% of our thoughts are the same as yesterday. Isnt there comfort in that? When you wake up in the morning do you really want to do the exercise, “who am I?” Its pretty brutal, we can probably find a youtube on that. It involves one person pretty much shouting at the other over and over again, “Who are you?” I think its a lot easier to just skin into all of you identities, wishes and problems from yesterday vs confronting that brutal exercise. Again maybe that is why it is so hard to let go of even negative things and identies we have assumed that are extremely problematic, even hurtful. Isnt it easier to stay in an abusive relationship? What about a bad job?

So then when you dont think you dont exist

The statement “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” takes the concept to an extreme by suggesting that consciousness and existence are contingent upon cognitive activity. Here’s how we can interpret and elaborate on this idea:

  1. Existence and Consciousness: At its core, this statement implies that our existence is intimately tied to our capacity for thought and consciousness. In other words, it suggests that without cognitive processes such as thinking, awareness, and perception, our sense of existence ceases to be.
  2. Philosophical Implications: This idea resonates with certain philosophical perspectives, particularly those that emphasize the primacy of consciousness in defining reality. For instance, in some existentialist philosophies, existence is viewed as inseparable from consciousness and subjective experience.
  3. Metaphorical Interpretation: On a metaphorical level, “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” could be interpreted as highlighting the importance of mental engagement and active participation in life. It suggests that a passive or unreflective existence lacks depth and meaning.
  4. Mindfulness and Presence: From a practical standpoint, the statement underscores the value of mindfulness and present-moment awareness. By actively engaging with our thoughts, emotions, and surroundings, we cultivate a sense of presence and aliveness.
  5. Limitations and Nuances: While the statement emphasizes the significance of cognitive activity, it’s important to recognize its limitations and nuances. Existence encompasses more than just thinking; it involves physical presence, sensory experiences, emotional states, and relational connections.
  6. States of Consciousness: Additionally, there are states of consciousness such as deep sleep, meditation, or altered states where conventional thinking may be absent, yet existence persists in some form. This highlights the complexity of the relationship between thought and existence.
  7. Collective Consciousness: Finally, on a broader scale, the statement invites contemplation of collective consciousness and shared reality. Our individual existence is intertwined with the collective consciousness of humanity, shaped by cultural, social, and historical influences.

In summary, “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” prompts reflection on the interplay between consciousness and existence, emphasizing the role of cognitive activity in shaping our sense of self and reality. However, it’s crucial to approach this idea with awareness of its philosophical, metaphorical, and practical implications.

When you dont think you are more likely to be creative

The idea that you are more likely to be creative when you don’t actively engage in conscious thought touches on the concept of “flow” or “unconscious creativity.” Here’s how we can explore this notion:

  1. Flow State: When you’re not actively thinking about a problem or task, your mind can enter a state of flow, where ideas seem to emerge effortlessly and intuitively. This state is often associated with heightened creativity because it allows your subconscious mind to make connections and generate novel solutions without the constraints of conscious thought.
  2. Unconscious Processing: Even when you’re not consciously thinking about something, your brain is still processing information in the background. Unconscious thought processes can sift through experiences, memories, and emotions, leading to unexpected insights and creative breakthroughs.
  3. Relaxation and Distraction: Stepping away from conscious thought can create mental space for relaxation and distraction, which are conducive to creativity. Engaging in activities like taking a walk, doodling, or daydreaming can stimulate divergent thinking and spark creative ideas.
  4. Silencing the Inner Critic: Conscious thought is often accompanied by self-criticism and judgment, which can inhibit creativity. When you let go of conscious control, you’re more likely to silence your inner critic and allow yourself to explore unconventional ideas without fear of failure.
  5. Connecting Disparate Ideas: Unconscious thought has a remarkable ability to connect seemingly unrelated concepts and draw inspiration from diverse sources. By allowing your mind to wander freely, you create opportunities for serendipitous connections and innovative thinking.
  6. Creativity in the Absence of Thought: Some of the most creative moments occur when you least expect them, such as in dreams or moments of idle reflection. These instances demonstrate that creativity can emerge spontaneously, even in the absence of conscious thought.
  7. Balancing Conscious and Unconscious Processes: While unconscious creativity can be powerful, it’s essential to strike a balance between conscious and unconscious thought. Conscious deliberation and planning are often necessary to refine and implement creative ideas generated unconsciously.

In summary, the idea that you are more likely to be creative when you don’t actively think underscores the importance of tapping into unconscious processes and allowing for moments of spontaneous inspiration. By embracing periods of mental relaxation and openness, you create fertile ground for creativity to flourish.

Matching and Mirroring: The Art of Elevating Spirits

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You’ve likely heard about the techniques of matching and mirroring, right? To establish rapport, one must initially match someone’s energy level before guiding them to a different emotional state. Imagine encountering someone whose energy is somewhat low; if you approach with overwhelming enthusiasm, you might entertain them, but you won’t necessarily uplift their spirits.

Instead, what if you began by matching their subdued energy, gained their trust, and then, with permission, engaged them in an activity to elevate their mood? This approach isn’t just about entertainment—it’s about providing a truly enriching experience.

This post is dedicated to Michael Smikun and Fernando Valencia. I recently learned from Michael during a captivating hour where he managed to energize a room full of disinterested doctors by encouraging them to tickle each other, followed by a thorough discussion on how to uplift energy and facilitate energy transference.

Moments later, I shared these insights with Fernando. I have often described myself as a golden retriever. I get excited when I see my friends and often “jump on them and lick them,” and that actually does cheer them up 90% of the time. He reminded me of the intuitive approach of golden retrievers: sometimes, when you’re feeling down, these dogs don’t just overwhelm you with energy. Instead, they might gently lay their head on your lap, a simple act that can lift your spirits enough to invite you to go out and play with them elevating you both.

As I write this, it strikes me how much we can learn from the empathetic nature of dogs. Perhaps my next blog should explore everything we can learn from animals. But for now, heartfelt thanks to Michael and Fernando for their insights.

I’ve heard similar principles a thousand times before, even 40 years ago at an Anthony Robbins seminar, and I’ve read about it in various forms from many different sources. However, either it takes time, or Michael and Fernando explained the micro-distinctions with such precision and practical examples that it’s transforming. How I engage with the people I love is the most vital piece of our engagement.

This is not about selling shit. It’s about being present to let each of my family and friends know how deeply I care about them. Interestingly, “being present” might actually be more beneficial than blurting out the latest life-saving tip I’ve learned. It’s a subtle yet powerful shift from giving advice to truly connecting, and if I’m thoughtful enough, I might even enter at their “speed limit” — perhaps there’s another blog in that concept alone — and who knows? Maybe then, I could truly make a life-saving difference.

As I re read this it might make an interesting discussion or debate whether “golden retriever” energy works all of the time, or 90% of the time or it just feels that way. Also is it a good pattern interrupt or is it better to ask permission? I’ll let you know. Or you can let me know. Practice caring more about the people you love.

*Michael Smikun and Fernando Valencia are part of the Unblinded team.

A Post Away From Happiness

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Throughout our lives, we encounter bits of wisdom—some that stick with us forever. These nuggets of knowledge can come from anywhere: a grandparent, a mentor, or a line from a book that resonates with us on a deep level. For instance, my father once told me, “As long as you are healthy, you can dig ditches and make money.” While it might not seem like the most profound statement at first, it underscored a vital truth for me—the paramount importance of health.

This simple saying from my father shaped my perspective, making it easier for me to prioritize healthy life choices. It’s a perfect example of how sometimes, the smaller sayings, not the grand declarations, are what truly change our lives.

Everyone has their own set of maxims that guide them. Perhaps this post might offer you a new one that could shift your perspective or reinforce your current path. Moreover, it’s crucial to reflect on the sayings you repeat to yourself and others. Are they positive? Do they encourage growth and happiness? If not, it might be time to let go of the negative ones.

The sayings we choose to live by can significantly influence our outlook and decisions. They can be reminders of our values and goals, helping us navigate through life’s complexities. By choosing to adopt and repeat positive and empowering phrases, we can shape a more optimistic and proactive approach to life.

Take a moment to think about the words that have impacted you. What are the sayings that have helped you the most? Sharing these can not only affirm their value in your life but also potentially inspire others. Remember, the right words at the right time can be a beacon of hope and a catalyst for change.

So, as you go about your day, consider the power of words and the impact they can have. You might just find that happiness is truly just a post away.

Your greatest skill is also your greatest curse

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Title: Every Skill: A Blessing and a Curse

Every skill or trait we possess carries with it a duality that shapes our experiences—serving as both a blessing and a curse. This complex interplay influences our interactions, our achievements, and even our inner emotional landscapes.

Take, for example, the person with extraordinary height, who might excel in sports and command attention in any room they enter. Yet, the same stature that brings admiration can also bring discomfort and inconvenience, like bumping their head on doorways or struggling to find clothing that fits properly.

Similarly, consider the brilliant minds in finance who can decode markets and amass wealth. Their skill in navigating complex numerical landscapes is enviable. However, this same brilliance often requires intense focus and isolation, which can lead to a lonely existence, separated from the easy camaraderie enjoyed by others.

Sensitivity in reading others can be another double-edged sword. For those attuned to the slightest emotional shifts in people around them, this sensitivity allows an unparalleled ability to connect and empathize. However, this same trait can lead to emotional overload and hurt, as the pain of others often becomes their own.

The person who makes friends easily brings another example. Their open, trusting nature garners a wide social circle and frequent joy. Yet, it’s this same openness that can make them vulnerable to deceit, leaving them more frequently betrayed or taken advantage of than their more cautious counterparts.

These examples show that our greatest strengths can sometimes also be our weaknesses. By understanding this balance, we can better navigate the complexities of our abilities and perhaps find ways to mitigate the downsides while amplifying the positives.

In life, it’s not just about developing skills or traits but managing the inherent contradictions they bring. As we grow and evolve, the challenge is to leverage these aspects to enrich our lives, mindful of both the blessings they bestow and the curses they conceal.

Think See Feel Get it, or Got it?

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Title: Think, See, Feel: How Did You Create Your Life?

The paths to realizing our desires are as varied as the individuals who walk them. Some people swear by goal-setting, meticulously planning each step towards achievement. Others advocate for visualization, believing in the power of seeing an outcome in the mind’s eye to make it a reality. Then, there are those who focus on the emotional resonance of their dreams, feeling their way into manifestation.

Consider how you acquired your last major purchase, like a car or a home. Did you list the specifications and systematically tick off boxes, or did you visualize it down to the last detail before ever stepping into it? Perhaps it was the emotional allure—the imagined scent of new upholstery or the thrill of space in a new home—that drew you in.

The process of creation in our lives can often be segmented into three phases: Think, See, and Feel.

  • Think: This is the stage of conception. It begins with an idea or a need. For instance, you realize you need a new car. You think about the kind of car that would best fit your lifestyle and budget. This is a cerebral phase, where logic plays a key role.
  • See: Next, you visualize what it would be like to own the car. Perhaps you picture yourself driving along the coast, the dashboard gleaming under the sun. Visualization can be a powerful motivator, making the intangible seem tangible.
  • Feel: Finally, you connect with the emotion of owning the car. How does it make you feel to sit behind the wheel, to know it’s yours? This emotional connection can often be the most compelling force in turning thoughts and visions into reality.

Understanding which of these resonates most with you can provide profound insights into how you shape your life. It’s not just about the methods you employ but about tuning into your natural inclinations and leveraging them.

So, how do you create your life? Is it through careful thought, vivid visualization, or deep emotional connection? Recognizing your predominant approach can help you refine it and perhaps even integrate other aspects to enhance your ability to manifest what you desire.