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You Can Only See Clearly from a Higher Point

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For those involved in self-development, growth, or even psychotherapy, have you ever noticed the endless “aha” moments? I used to lovingly curse out my friend David Ellzey, who coaches me using the Sedona Method and his own unique blend of skills. I would lovingly say, “WTF? Why didn’t you teach me this 10 years ago?” And to this day, we keep discovering more and more layers. Or is it that we are reaching higher and higher vantage points from which we can make even greater distinctions in every area of our lives for more meaningful and richer relationships, as well as not giving too much attention or personal energy inappropriately in business situations?

For example, you certainly don’t want to be seeking approval or wanting to be liked by your vendors, although you can have a healthy and sometimes friendly relationship. There is a border often crossed by those who seek to be liked by everyone. But the point of this blog is that there are countless things you simply cannot see while you’re blocked by so many childhood, adolescent, or in some cases even adult traumas.

Who doesn’t know an injured woman or man who is incapable of trusting and having a loving relationship? Or one who chooses the same type of person over and over again because it represents something missing from their childhood? These scenarios know no bounds. They exist for some of the obscenely wealthiest and successful among us and across the board. But while you are stuck in the mud or the valley, you can’t even see the next valley or the mountaintop. Maybe you need to learn more or climb higher to see what you couldn’t see before.

Key Points to Consider

  1. Endless Layers of Growth:
    • Personal development is an ongoing journey. Each “aha” moment reveals new layers of understanding and self-awareness.
    • As we grow, our perspective shifts, allowing us to see and understand things that were previously hidden.
  2. Importance of Vantage Points:
    • Just like climbing a mountain, personal growth gives us a higher vantage point. From these new heights, we can see further and make more informed decisions.
    • Higher vantage points help us distinguish between meaningful relationships and those that drain our energy.
  3. Impact of Childhood and Adolescent Traumas:
    • Unresolved traumas can block our vision, keeping us stuck in repetitive patterns.
    • Recognizing and addressing these traumas can free us to see new possibilities and healthier patterns.
  4. Navigating Business Relationships:
    • In business, it’s essential to maintain professional boundaries and not seek approval from everyone.
    • Healthy business relationships are built on mutual respect, not on the need to be liked.
  5. Healing and Growth for Trusting Relationships:
    • Many people struggle with trust and relationship issues due to past traumas.
    • Healing these wounds can open the door to healthier, more trusting relationships.

Conclusion

The journey of personal growth and development is like climbing a mountain. Each new height reached offers a clearer view and deeper understanding of ourselves and our relationships. By addressing unresolved traumas and continuously striving for higher vantage points, we can achieve greater clarity, more meaningful relationships, and a more fulfilled life.

Emotional Energetic States: Energy vs. Anti-Energy

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  1. Fun vs. Rigidity
    • Fun: Represents a state of joy, playfulness, and light-heartedness. This energy is infectious and can uplift those around you.
    • Rigidity: Signifies strictness, inflexibility, and a serious demeanor. It can create barriers in communication and make interactions feel tense.
  2. Goddess in the Heart vs. Thinking (in the Head)
    • Goddess in the Heart: Symbolizes being present, compassionate, and connected to your emotions and intuition. It allows for deep, heartfelt connections with others.
    • Thinking (in the Head): Indicates being overly analytical, focused on the past or future, and disconnected from the present moment. This state can hinder genuine emotional connection.
  3. Aspirational Inspired vs. Negativity
    • Aspirational Inspired: Involves being motivated, hopeful, and driven by positive goals. This energy can inspire and motivate others.
    • Negativity: Involves pessimism, doubt, and negative vibrations. It can drain energy and discourage those around you.
  4. Zeus Decisive Fulfillment Achievement vs. Fear and Uncertainty
    • Zeus Decisive Fulfillment Achievement: Embodies confidence, decisiveness, and a sense of accomplishment. This state exudes strength and can lead others with assurance.
    • Fear and Uncertainty: Represents anxiety, hesitation, and lack of confidence. It can create instability and prevent effective communication.

The Importance of Emotional Energy in Communication

You cannot effectively communicate with others if you are stuck in a state of rigidity, overthinking, negativity, or fear. True connection happens on an energetic level, where emotions play a crucial role.

Key Points to Remember:

  • We connect energetically: Our emotional states influence our ability to connect with others. Being in a positive and present state enhances our interactions.
  • Physical Actions to Shift States: If you find yourself in misery, grief, or depression, physical actions like a hand clap or fist pump can help shift your energy.
  • Communicating Emotionally: To take people on an emotional journey with you, you need to be in touch with your own emotions. This allows you to communicate with authenticity and empathy.

By being aware of your emotional state and actively choosing positive energy, you can improve your ability to connect and communicate with others. This not only enhances personal relationships but also professional interactions and overall well-being.

Credit Michael Smikun July 5, 2024 morning huddle Unblinded my notes to the best of my ability

Your worst upbringing created your greatest talent

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So far 100% of the people I know personally and or famous people on line are a product of really shitty upbringing. We have infamous Andrew Huberman. He said his dad was so violent, that he needed to read him in a few seconds to know whether to hide his mother and sister from what he read as a potentially violent night. I have a wonderful partner that I work with practicing the Sedona method. Her voice is so loving. Her caring and taking notes and wanting to dig a little deeper and try another method is simply unmatched by anyone. She is going to be, or already is a fabulous loving coach, due to her upbringing. We dont go into detail because there is a lot of pain, but we do general releasing and accepting.

I desperately wanted “approval” Approval shows up in many ways. My dad always worked 3 jobs until he had his own business, then he merely worked 18 hours a day. I was desperate for my dad to spend time with me or listen to me. As a result I will always try to please everyone to a fault. I even go out of my way to make friends with vendors and everyone I deal with. Whatever went on in your childhood made you who you are. Maybe your parents demanded straight A’s. Maybe they were impossible to please. Maybe they were alcholics. Maybe they separated. Whatever they did made you who you are. But for most of the people I know, it has become their greatest strength.

Many a successful person has articulated that they wanted to prove something to their parents, or one of their parents. Enjoy your greatest talent, that is my message with this blog. Dont be upset, dont be resentful. If you grew up poor, be grateful that you are motivated to be rich. If you grew up without love, notice how you are probably the most loving person you know. Enjoy your strengths, just be sure no one is taking advantage of your strengths and turning them into weaknesses.