Are You Taking the Shots?

In both sports and life, taking the shot is a metaphor for seizing opportunities. Whether it’s shooting a basketball, kicking a soccer ball, or swinging a baseball bat, the willingness to take the shot is what ultimately leads to success. But what are the actual percentages of these shots resulting in success in professional sports? Let’s dive into some statistics to understand the reality of taking the shot.

Basketball: Field Goal Percentage

In professional basketball, the percentage of shots that result in baskets, known as the field goal percentage, varies by player and position. However, as of recent NBA seasons:

  • Average Field Goal Percentage: Approximately 45-46%
  • Top Players: Often exceed 50%, with centers and forwards typically having higher percentages due to taking shots closer to the basket.

Soccer: Shots on Goal to Goals

In soccer, the conversion rate of shots on goal to actual goals can be quite low:

  • Average Conversion Rate: Around 10-12%
  • Top Strikers: The best forwards might have a conversion rate of 20% or higher, showcasing their ability to capitalize on scoring opportunities.

Baseball: Batting Average

In baseball, the batting average represents the percentage of at-bats that result in hits:

  • Average Batting Average: Approximately .250 to .260 (25-26%)
  • Top Hitters: Averages above .300 (30%) are considered excellent, with the very best reaching .350 or higher.

Hockey: Shots on Goal to Goals

In hockey, the percentage of shots on goal that result in goals, known as the shooting percentage, is typically:

  • Average Shooting Percentage: Around 9-10%
  • Top Players: Can achieve shooting percentages of 15% or higher, reflecting their precision and skill.

Additional Sports:

  • American Football: Completion percentage for quarterbacks, which measures the percentage of passes completed:
    • Average: Around 63-65%
    • Top Quarterbacks: Often exceed 70%
  • Tennis: First serve percentage, which measures the percentage of first serves that are in:
    • Average: Around 60-65%
    • Top Players: Often exceed 70%, with the best reaching 75-80%
  • Golf: Greens in Regulation (GIR), which measures the percentage of holes where the ball reaches the green in the expected number of strokes:
    • Average: Around 65-70%
    • Top Players: Often exceed 75%

Cold Calls: Success Rates Across Industries

In the business world, taking shots often means making cold calls. The success rate of cold calls—calls to potential customers who have had no prior contact with the salesperson—varies by industry:

  • Overall Average: Approximately 2% (meaning 2 out of every 100 cold calls result in a sale).
  • Technology Industry: Success rates can be higher, around 5-10%, due to targeted approaches and higher-value sales.
  • Insurance: Typically lower, around 1-2%, given the competitive nature and high customer skepticism.
  • Real Estate: Approximately 1-3%, depending on market conditions and lead quality.
  • B2B Sales: Can range from 2-5%, with higher rates for well-qualified leads.

Are You Taking the Shots in Your Life?

Let’s reflect on how these statistics translate to personal and professional growth. Are you the player who passes the ball to someone else, thinking they’re a better shooter? Do you find yourself primarily blocking, getting rebounds, or setting picks rather than taking the shot yourself?

If you took as many shots as the next guy, wouldn’t you score more?

In life, just like in sports, success often requires stepping out of your comfort zone and taking the shot. Whether it’s pursuing a new career opportunity, starting a business, or simply voicing an idea in a meeting, the willingness to take risks is crucial.

Key Takeaways:

  • Take the Shot: Embrace the opportunity to act, even if it means facing failure.
  • Learn from Misses: Each missed shot is a learning opportunity, bringing you closer to success.
  • Celebrate Hits: Acknowledge and celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.

Conclusion

The statistics from professional sports remind us that even the best athletes do not succeed every time. In fact, success often means converting less than half of their attempts. The key takeaway here is that taking the shot, despite the risk of failure, is essential.

In life, just like in sports, the willingness to take the shot, to seize opportunities, and to embrace the possibility of failure is what leads to growth and success. Whether you’re pursuing a career goal, starting a new project, or striving for personal improvement, remember that the act of taking the shot is a victory in itself.

So, are you taking the shots in your life? Are you stepping up and giving yourself the chance to succeed? Embrace the mindset of a professional athlete: take the shot, learn from the misses, and celebrate the hits. Over time, your persistence and willingness to try will lead to your own version of success.

One Last Kick in the Butt. What 80% misses gets you paid

The highest-paid athlete in the world for 2024 is Cristiano Ronaldo, with earnings totaling $260 million. His income includes $200 million from his salary with Al Nassr and $60 million from endorsements​ (Forbes Australia)​​ (Wikipedia)​.

Cristiano Ronaldo’s Performance:

In soccer, Ronaldo’s shots on goal conversion rate varies, but on average, a top striker like him has a goal conversion rate of around 20-25%. This means that for every 100 shots on goal, approximately 20-25 result in goals, illustrating the high standard expected in professional soccer.

What If We Harnessed the Success of the $347 Billion Video Game Industry?

Did you know the video game industry rakes in a staggering $347 billion annually? It’s a behemoth that rivals even the military industrial complex in terms of economic impact. But what makes these games so successful, beyond their entertainment value?

Behind the scenes, teams of psychologists are likely analyzing the best intervals to hack our brains. Whether it’s Candy Crush or Call of Duty, these games are designed with various levels of rewards, from simple to complex. They train players to expect rewards every 5 to 30 seconds, gradually conditioning them. Then, at critical junctures, they offer in-game advantages for a fee—a strategy that keeps players engaged and spending.

For those unfamiliar with gaming, don’t dismiss its influence. The industry’s immense profitability speaks volumes about its effectiveness. At its core, gaming taps into our brain’s reward system, triggering the release of happy chemicals with each accomplishment.

Consider how we can apply these principles outside of gaming. What if we structured tasks and goals in our personal and professional lives to offer similar incremental rewards? By breaking down challenges into manageable levels of achievement, we can leverage the psychology of motivation and satisfaction.

Let’s explore how we can learn from the strategies that make gaming so addictive and engaging. Could adapting these techniques help us unlock greater productivity, motivation, and satisfaction in our daily lives?

FOMO is in everything

The concept of FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out, is typically associated with the anxiety of missing out on social events, opportunities, or the latest trends. However, this fear extends beyond just social or financial contexts. It seeps into various aspects of our lives, subtly influencing our actions and decisions. Let’s delve into how FOMO manifests in the realm of procrastination and other life areas.

FOMO and Procrastination

Procrastination is often seen as a mere avoidance of tasks. Yet, at its core, it can be deeply intertwined with a variant of FOMO—Fear of Missing Something. This form of FOMO can paralyze us with the fear that we’re not fully prepared or that we’re lacking a critical piece of information. Here’s how this fear plays out:

  1. Taxes and Paperwork: The fear of missing a 1099 form. This is a perfect example of how FOMO creates a blockade. The anxiety of potentially overlooking a single detail can lead to delaying the task altogether. This fear is not just about missing out on social activities but about the apprehension of incomplete information or preparedness.
  2. Public Speaking: The hesitation to give a speech due to feeling underprepared can also stem from this fear. The thought that we might be missing a crucial piece of information can stop us from moving forward. It’s the fear that our preparation isn’t sufficient, that we might miss out on delivering the perfect presentation.
  3. Interpersonal Interactions: When we hesitate to call someone because we feel we haven’t gathered enough background information, it’s another example of this nuanced FOMO. It’s the anxiety that we might miss a critical detail that could affect the outcome of our conversation.

Broader Implications of FOMO

FOMO isn’t just about social events or investment opportunities. Here are other ways it can influence our lives:

  1. Career Decisions: Fear of missing the ‘perfect’ job can make us hesitant to apply for or accept roles. We might constantly seek additional qualifications or experience, fearing we aren’t yet ready or missing some key competency.
  2. Personal Growth: We often delay starting new hobbies or learning new skills due to the fear that we don’t have the right resources or enough knowledge. This fear of not having all the necessary components can hinder our personal development.
  3. Relationships: In relationships, FOMO can manifest as the fear of missing out on better opportunities or the perfect partner. This can lead to commitment issues or dissatisfaction with current relationships, driven by the anxiety that something better might be out there.
  4. Health and Wellness: The fear of missing out on the latest diet, exercise trend, or wellness advice can lead to constantly changing routines or never fully committing to a health plan. This can create a cycle of perpetual dissatisfaction and insecurity.

Overcoming the Fear of Missing Something

To combat this form of FOMO, we need to:

  • Embrace Imperfection: Understand that perfection is often an illusion. It’s okay to start with what you have and improve along the way. Action breeds clarity and progress.
  • Set Clear Goals: Define what ‘enough’ looks like for each task. This helps in setting realistic boundaries and knowing when you have sufficient information to proceed.
  • Prioritize and Simplify: Focus on the core essentials of what you need to achieve. By narrowing your focus, you reduce the overwhelm that leads to procrastination.
  • Build Confidence Through Action: The more we act, the more we realize that missing a small piece of information rarely leads to disaster. This builds confidence in our ability to handle situations even when not everything is perfectly aligned.
  • Mindful Reflection: Regularly reflect on your decisions and outcomes. This helps to recognize patterns where FOMO might be unnecessarily holding you back and allows for conscious adjustments.

By shifting our perspective on FOMO from a social context to a broader life context, we can begin to see how this fear subtly influences our decisions and actions. Acknowledging it is the first step towards managing it and moving forward with greater confidence and less anxiety.

Study Your Successes: The Key to Navigating Life’s Challenges

Life is a journey full of ups and downs, moments of triumph, and periods of struggle. One crucial aspect of navigating this journey is understanding not only our mistakes but also our successes. Too often, we focus on what went wrong, driven by the pain of our failures. However, by studying our successes, we can better prepare ourselves for when life inevitably throws us off track.

The Lesson in Pain

We learn from our mistakes because of the pain they cause. Put your hand in fire once, and you’ll remember the lesson forever. Pain serves as a powerful teacher, ingraining the memory of our errors deeply within us. However, this focus on pain means we often overlook the equally valuable lessons our successes can teach us.

The Mystery of Sudden Failures

How many times have you felt like everything was going perfectly, only to have it all fall apart unexpectedly? The train falls off the tracks, and you’re left wondering why. Without understanding what contributed to your previous successes, it’s challenging to pinpoint what might have gone wrong. This lack of insight can leave you feeling lost and frustrated.

The Importance of Self-Reflection

To avoid these pitfalls, it’s essential to study your successes as diligently as you analyze your mistakes. One practical way to do this is by keeping a diary or an Excel sheet where you annotate moments when you “feel great” or note any significant achievements. Use keywords that resonate with you and that you will remember.

Creating a Success Log

When life does go off course, you can refer back to this log. Use the “find” function to search for those key moments of success and identify patterns. Perhaps you’ll discover that regular exercise, a morning walk, a particular supplement, or abstaining from TV were part of your routine during successful periods. The possibilities are endless, but without documentation, these insights remain hidden.

The Power of Positive Habits

By studying what you were doing right, you can recreate those conditions. Understanding the habits, routines, and activities that contributed to your success gives you a roadmap to follow. It’s about recognizing that success isn’t just about avoiding pain; it’s also about cultivating the positive habits that lead to thriving.

A Call to Action

Start today by creating your success log. Write down what you did, how you felt, and any small details that might seem insignificant now but could be crucial later. Study yourself when you are successful. This proactive approach will equip you with the knowledge and tools to get back on track faster when challenges arise.

Embrace a Balanced Perspective

Remember, life is a balance of learning from pain and celebrating triumphs. By giving equal weight to your successes, you ensure a more comprehensive understanding of yourself and your journey. This balanced perspective will empower you to navigate life’s inevitable ups and downs with greater confidence and resilience.

Conclusion

Study your successes or you will have no idea what to do when the train falls off the tracks. Pain teaches us what to avoid, but understanding our successes shows us what to embrace. Keep track of your positive moments, reflect on them, and use them as a guide to maintain and replicate those successes. Your future self will thank you.

If you are what you think then when you dont think you dont exist.

This is my corollary to Wayne Dyer”‘s “If you are what you do then when you dont you arent.” It would seem like most people are running their life like that. Try challenging anyone to let go of their thoughts for a day. They will accuse you of being crazy. I am merely suggesting that you conduct just one day without stupid repetitive thoughts. What is the point of being alive it it is only to repeat the same stupid thoughts you had yesterday. Everyone hangs on to every thought for dear life. Perhaps dementia will be the only time they are free from repetitive thoughts.

I had a day of no thoughts a few months ago. It was a Sunday and I challenged myself to have a day with no “thoughts”. Just like when you meditate. Anytime a thought came up that was one of the 90,000 from yesterday or any days before, literally any previous thought was let go. I only allowed original thoughts or creative ideas for the whole day. It was spooky. Who was I anyway? Arent we what we think? By the end of the day I was wondering if I was going to die. It didnt make any sense to no longer identify with this body this life, these problems. Maybe I understand why it is so hard to let go of our repetitive thoughts. There is comfort in identifying even with your bills. It reminds you of who you are and what you have done.

But I would maintain that all creative thinking comes from “no mind”. How many times have you forgot about something only for the solution to pop into your head. That goes for complex new ideas as well as simply finding your keys or remembering a person’s name.

I played with my friend ChatGpt to see what they thought.

We started with Wayne Dyers famous one that I have remembered,

If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t” delves into the concept of identity and its relationship with action. Let’s break it down:

  1. Identity and Action: The phrase suggests that our identity is closely tied to our actions or what we do. This implies that our sense of self, how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us, is shaped by our behavior, choices, and activities.
  2. Absence of Action and Identity: When it says “when you don’t, you aren’t,” it implies that when we’re not actively engaged in doing something, we’re somehow lacking in identity or essence. In other words, our identity is not static but rather dynamic, dependent on our ongoing actions and engagements.
  3. Implication of Inactivity: There’s an underlying suggestion that inactivity or lack of action leads to a kind of existential void or loss of self. This can be interpreted in various ways depending on the context. For example, in a professional context, if someone’s identity is strongly tied to their job or career, being unemployed or not actively pursuing their profession might lead to a sense of loss or uncertainty about their identity.
  4. Critique: While the statement highlights the link between action and identity, it can also be seen as limiting or reductive. Identity is a complex interplay of various factors including personal values, beliefs, relationships, and experiences, not solely determined by what one does. Additionally, it doesn’t account for the value of introspection, rest, or activities that might not be traditionally seen as productive but still contribute to one’s sense of self.

I think Wayne Dyer was speaking to those of us who identify with our jobs. So then when you retire who are you? You can go even further with that into all of your relationships. The saddest thing is when a parent loses a child. But isnt it the same with all of our relationships? You lose each one of those identities if the person you are in relationship with no longer exists. Ok too dark, but we can write a whole book on that.

You Are What you Think

Overall, the statement prompts reflection on how we define ourselves, how our actions shape our identity, and the implications of inactivity on our sense of self.

Then moved on to “You are what you think” expands the idea of identity beyond just actions to include thoughts and mental processes. Here’s how we can elaborate on this concept:

  1. Cognitive Identity: This statement suggests that our identity is not only shaped by our actions but also by our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. It implies that the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us is influenced by our cognitive processes.
  2. Self-Perception: What we think about ourselves, our abilities, our worth, and our place in the world contributes to our sense of identity. Positive thoughts can lead to a confident and empowered self-perception, while negative thoughts can undermine self-esteem and create a sense of inadequacy.
  3. Impact on Behavior: Our thoughts have a profound influence on our behavior. What we think often translates into how we act. For example, someone who believes they are capable and worthy is more likely to take on challenges and pursue their goals, whereas someone who doubts themselves may hold back and avoid opportunities.
  4. Internal Dialogue: The statement also draws attention to the ongoing internal dialogue we have with ourselves. This internal dialogue can be supportive and affirming or critical and self-defeating, shaping our perceptions and actions accordingly.
  5. Mindfulness and Self-Awareness: Embracing the idea “you are what you think” emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and self-awareness. By paying attention to our thoughts and actively choosing to cultivate positive, constructive thinking patterns, we can shape a healthier and more resilient sense of self.
  6. Challenge and Growth: Recognizing the power of thoughts in shaping identity also opens up avenues for personal growth and transformation. By challenging negative thought patterns and cultivating more positive and empowering beliefs, individuals can redefine their identity and navigate life with greater confidence and fulfillment.

In essence, “you are what you think” underscores the profound influence of our thoughts on our identity, behavior, and overall well-being, highlighting the importance of cultivating a positive and empowering mindset. Maybe this is why we think incessantly and why 90% of our thoughts are the same as yesterday. Isnt there comfort in that? When you wake up in the morning do you really want to do the exercise, “who am I?” Its pretty brutal, we can probably find a youtube on that. It involves one person pretty much shouting at the other over and over again, “Who are you?” I think its a lot easier to just skin into all of you identities, wishes and problems from yesterday vs confronting that brutal exercise. Again maybe that is why it is so hard to let go of even negative things and identies we have assumed that are extremely problematic, even hurtful. Isnt it easier to stay in an abusive relationship? What about a bad job?

So then when you dont think you dont exist

The statement “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” takes the concept to an extreme by suggesting that consciousness and existence are contingent upon cognitive activity. Here’s how we can interpret and elaborate on this idea:

  1. Existence and Consciousness: At its core, this statement implies that our existence is intimately tied to our capacity for thought and consciousness. In other words, it suggests that without cognitive processes such as thinking, awareness, and perception, our sense of existence ceases to be.
  2. Philosophical Implications: This idea resonates with certain philosophical perspectives, particularly those that emphasize the primacy of consciousness in defining reality. For instance, in some existentialist philosophies, existence is viewed as inseparable from consciousness and subjective experience.
  3. Metaphorical Interpretation: On a metaphorical level, “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” could be interpreted as highlighting the importance of mental engagement and active participation in life. It suggests that a passive or unreflective existence lacks depth and meaning.
  4. Mindfulness and Presence: From a practical standpoint, the statement underscores the value of mindfulness and present-moment awareness. By actively engaging with our thoughts, emotions, and surroundings, we cultivate a sense of presence and aliveness.
  5. Limitations and Nuances: While the statement emphasizes the significance of cognitive activity, it’s important to recognize its limitations and nuances. Existence encompasses more than just thinking; it involves physical presence, sensory experiences, emotional states, and relational connections.
  6. States of Consciousness: Additionally, there are states of consciousness such as deep sleep, meditation, or altered states where conventional thinking may be absent, yet existence persists in some form. This highlights the complexity of the relationship between thought and existence.
  7. Collective Consciousness: Finally, on a broader scale, the statement invites contemplation of collective consciousness and shared reality. Our individual existence is intertwined with the collective consciousness of humanity, shaped by cultural, social, and historical influences.

In summary, “when you don’t think, you don’t exist” prompts reflection on the interplay between consciousness and existence, emphasizing the role of cognitive activity in shaping our sense of self and reality. However, it’s crucial to approach this idea with awareness of its philosophical, metaphorical, and practical implications.

When you dont think you are more likely to be creative

The idea that you are more likely to be creative when you don’t actively engage in conscious thought touches on the concept of “flow” or “unconscious creativity.” Here’s how we can explore this notion:

  1. Flow State: When you’re not actively thinking about a problem or task, your mind can enter a state of flow, where ideas seem to emerge effortlessly and intuitively. This state is often associated with heightened creativity because it allows your subconscious mind to make connections and generate novel solutions without the constraints of conscious thought.
  2. Unconscious Processing: Even when you’re not consciously thinking about something, your brain is still processing information in the background. Unconscious thought processes can sift through experiences, memories, and emotions, leading to unexpected insights and creative breakthroughs.
  3. Relaxation and Distraction: Stepping away from conscious thought can create mental space for relaxation and distraction, which are conducive to creativity. Engaging in activities like taking a walk, doodling, or daydreaming can stimulate divergent thinking and spark creative ideas.
  4. Silencing the Inner Critic: Conscious thought is often accompanied by self-criticism and judgment, which can inhibit creativity. When you let go of conscious control, you’re more likely to silence your inner critic and allow yourself to explore unconventional ideas without fear of failure.
  5. Connecting Disparate Ideas: Unconscious thought has a remarkable ability to connect seemingly unrelated concepts and draw inspiration from diverse sources. By allowing your mind to wander freely, you create opportunities for serendipitous connections and innovative thinking.
  6. Creativity in the Absence of Thought: Some of the most creative moments occur when you least expect them, such as in dreams or moments of idle reflection. These instances demonstrate that creativity can emerge spontaneously, even in the absence of conscious thought.
  7. Balancing Conscious and Unconscious Processes: While unconscious creativity can be powerful, it’s essential to strike a balance between conscious and unconscious thought. Conscious deliberation and planning are often necessary to refine and implement creative ideas generated unconsciously.

In summary, the idea that you are more likely to be creative when you don’t actively think underscores the importance of tapping into unconscious processes and allowing for moments of spontaneous inspiration. By embracing periods of mental relaxation and openness, you create fertile ground for creativity to flourish.

Your greatest skill is also your greatest curse

Title: Every Skill: A Blessing and a Curse

Every skill or trait we possess carries with it a duality that shapes our experiences—serving as both a blessing and a curse. This complex interplay influences our interactions, our achievements, and even our inner emotional landscapes.

Take, for example, the person with extraordinary height, who might excel in sports and command attention in any room they enter. Yet, the same stature that brings admiration can also bring discomfort and inconvenience, like bumping their head on doorways or struggling to find clothing that fits properly.

Similarly, consider the brilliant minds in finance who can decode markets and amass wealth. Their skill in navigating complex numerical landscapes is enviable. However, this same brilliance often requires intense focus and isolation, which can lead to a lonely existence, separated from the easy camaraderie enjoyed by others.

Sensitivity in reading others can be another double-edged sword. For those attuned to the slightest emotional shifts in people around them, this sensitivity allows an unparalleled ability to connect and empathize. However, this same trait can lead to emotional overload and hurt, as the pain of others often becomes their own.

The person who makes friends easily brings another example. Their open, trusting nature garners a wide social circle and frequent joy. Yet, it’s this same openness that can make them vulnerable to deceit, leaving them more frequently betrayed or taken advantage of than their more cautious counterparts.

These examples show that our greatest strengths can sometimes also be our weaknesses. By understanding this balance, we can better navigate the complexities of our abilities and perhaps find ways to mitigate the downsides while amplifying the positives.

In life, it’s not just about developing skills or traits but managing the inherent contradictions they bring. As we grow and evolve, the challenge is to leverage these aspects to enrich our lives, mindful of both the blessings they bestow and the curses they conceal.

Synchronicity is simply “letting go.” It’s not magic.

It’s that simple. It’s knowing how to let go of your “stuff”. If you are busy complaining, worrying about the future, and complaining about the past, it isn’t going to happen. You will not have the peace of mind to listen to everyone you encounter each and every day. If you can let go of your stuff and be at peace you can see what is in common with everyone you meet. You see how easily you can connect. You hear ideas that are perfect for you. I am sure you have heard stories about people hiring someone they encountered casually or finding the ideal partner in a casual setting or meeting the perfect mentor. Its the legend of so many famous success stories.

None of that can happen while you are complaining about politics, inflation, your boss, your wife, your husband. Most people are only listening to the 50,000 repetitive thoughts that are on an automatic loop of self talk, including regrets and worries, that is in their heads. There is no time for you to explore all the beautiful things around you, every day, while you are mired in your own thoughts. Dont feel bad. It is estimated that everyone does that.

So maybe magic has nothing to do with the universe, the cosmos, meditation, manifesting, or prayer. Its just you freeing yourself from being a slave to your negative thoughts.

Let’s play a game, OK? You can pray, visualize, and manifest all that you want. You can go for two weeks with Joe Dispenza and a week with Anthony Robbins. But if you are still stuck in your own worries and concerns, what would happen in this scenario.

You go to your best friend’s party and meet your friend’s cousin, who just flew in from Europe. You hit it off, with great rapport. You share more about your life, your disappointments, your fears about the next election, and climate change. And you feel you are becoming closer and are happy about that.

Scenario number 2: You are at peace for whatever reason. It could be the Sedona Method with David, 30 years of psychotherapy, or Joe Dispenza. Whatever method you. chose, you are at peace. You are happy. So instead, you ask this person all about their life, their children, and their marriage. You are so at peace, you listen intently to everything they say.

After listening peacefully for a long time, they mention their father is the largest importer of sports clothing in Italy. You actually have a warehouse of unsold sporting goods, from a failed venture. He introduces you, and you get an order for a million dollars. Was that synchronicity, or was it you at peace, listening and him and loving that you gave him the present of unconditional listening?

You merely have to be at peace to notice the world around you, what is in it, and what people do. Heck, in option number one, you might have been such a complainer that the conversation ended quickly. Are you starting to get my proposal here?

I propose that it is that simple. Perhaps you need to let go of your stuff to be open to seeing and hearing all of the opportunities that are teeming around you.

I think we underestimate how important it is to let go of our problems and issues and be at peace, no matter how you do it. Stop talking to yourself and start listening, and magic will happen. It’s not magic; it’s just you, keeping your mouth shut and stopping your brain from occupying your mind with its incessant chatter, that does not allow you to hear anything but your own self talk.

Are you talking now and not even being open-minded about what I am writing and what you are reading? The ability to really listen is so rare because of the combination of negative self-talk, endless mental masturbation, and constant chatter in the brain.

There is so much to notice when you “let go” and are quiet. When your brain’s incessant chatter is not occupying every second of your life.

Stop talking to yourself and start listening. Period. Magic will happen; call it what you will. I am not ruling out the possibility that great ideas come from the subconscious or the universe, but I am saying that its absolutely certain that whether it is supernaturally or pragmatically, the door is closed when you are occupied with your own self talk.

You Know! Even if no one else agrees with you.

I bet you can even tell me stories when you knew something. No one else agreed with you. You went along to get along or assumed the majority was right. Yet you later found out you were right all along.

“Trusting ourselves is one of the most important things that we do.” said my dear friend David Ellzey. I was relating my experience with an extremely famous, website designing company that messed up my new website. I lost 90% of my traffic. I can spend an hour telling you all of their mistakes. They violated every rule and I am still losing a fortune, and they are not even moving to rectify the situation.

Yet they have almost 100, 5-star reviews, and everyone loves them. And people have dealt with them for years. My friend David Ellzey, (by the way fantastic coach Sedona Method), said let’s look at Mercedes as an example.

What if you had a bad salesman, a bad mechanic, the one lemon they had at that dealership? The possibilities are endless where in the chain of events you just got a lemon. Funny as I searched for an image, there were all too many ones of Mercedes and a lemon. Maybe “lemons” are more common than we think.

It doesn’t matter why my experience was awful. No one at that company cares and is fixing things. I had a few meetings where they were defensive. There are times in your life when you just “know” and you are right, and you have to do what you know is right. To me, it’s pretty clear that the company is simply too big. But you can’t change a company or a person. Well actually all of the time, not sometimes. You just can’t change things outside of you. Where have we heard that before?

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” For whatever reason, they are not going to change. It has been months. Time to go. You know when you know, regardless of other people’s experiences. Trust your judgment. Of course study as much as possible. By the way, the number of things YOU CAN change is monumental. Heck, I don’t even need a website. Everyone I have spoken to understands our experience and integrity. When I ask them if they liked the website, they say “Never been there, I like and trusted you” LOL. Go figure.

So what am I trying to say, Trust yourself, trust your judgment, trust your intuition, if it’s calm and certain. There is a nervous excitement that should not be confused with certainty and intuition. That is when your friend calls you and gives you the greatest stock tip ever, if you just pony up $10,000 today, before 4 pm, and you get all nervous and excited. That is not intuition. Intuition is when you are as certain as the earth under your feet, you are doing the right thing and you will make it work. And ignore the experiences of others. Because sometimes you do get a lemon. It’s bitter. It’s obvious and you know it’s a lemon.

Because when you know you’re right, and follow what you know, no matter what happens, you were true to yourself. That’s worth everything.

Give a Man a fish and you will destroy him

Did I get your attention? So maybe that is a bit extreme but is it? Lets do a tale of 2 people they could be men or even children. So if you give person 1 a fish, great, he eats it. The other one, number 2, is taught how to fish so he is set for life, he or she can not only feed themself but they can start a business. They have learned. the value of hard work. They understand the value of creation. They will learn how to create an action and receive a benefit or causation. They will learn self reliance. They will learn to be independent. They will not ever have to depend on anyone. You will have begun on the path of self reliance. What about the satisfaction of accomplishment? Isnt that one of the greatest joys?

Give a man a fish vs teach a man to fish is a bit trite. It doesnt explain the cascade of benefits of learning how to take care of yourself. In fact there is so much that goes into learning how to fish. I dont fish but I can guess you have to learn a sequence of actions. you have to buy the right kind of pole and the reel, and the line, decide where to fish. What time to fish. There is so much to learn. I even heard Dean Graziosi describe winning a tournament by observing where the fish were and whether they could see you approach. There is a plethora of things to learn. 

What about patience? Its not like being on your ipad playing a game where you are rewarded every 30 seconds with a “win” or a dopamine hit. PS person number 2 is fat and happy eating the fish you gave to him in fact they literally might be fat as well because they didnt expend any energy to get their dinner. They didnt go outside to get fresh air. They didnt get the benefit of sunshine and vitamin D. Person A might have been fishing with a friend and enjoying emotional rapport. Person B is probably sitting home playing on their ipad.

And it gets so much worse. One only need to go back to the sixties when Lyndon Johnson began the great society welfare programs. They destroyed so many lives and families of black and white people alike.

WE ARE HUMANS. We are hard wired to expend as little energy as possible to survive. That is our primitive coding to literally survive. Listen to Andrew Huberman and other neuroscientists. They will go as far as saying even when it comes to thinking let alone physical exertion. They say your brain will take the path of least resistance when it comes to thinking so dont make your marketing to the point where its difficult to decide. This is huge on every level from physical to emotional. So stop destroying peoples lives by not allowing them to grow.  PREPUBLICATION DRAFT