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Why Is Everyone in a Group? Because We All Need a Little HI.

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HI — Human Interaction — is a daily vitamin. You already know this instinctively. We’ve all heard the studies: babies who aren’t held, touched, or cuddled don’t develop normally. But what about adults? What about you?

When I got my first apartment in my 30s, I expected independence to feel like freedom. Instead, the silence hit me like a wall. I had achieved the goal… and accidentally isolated myself. Looking back, I wonder if that chapter set the stage for a string of failed relationships. We humans need proximity — even animals do. Pet a cat and listen to it purr. Are we really any different?

I’ve spent years in different coaching and learning communities, and something always stands out: people form bonds fast. They throw around the word “love” the same way most people say “hello.” Why? Because these groups meet a fundamental need. Connection. Belonging. HI.

Loneliness is now considered one of the major modern diseases. If you come from a big family, you may not relate — you might be wishing those relatives would give you five minutes of peace. That’s the paradox: too much or too little, and we feel it. The need doesn’t go away; it just shows up differently.

But here’s the point. You already know the cure.
If you’re lucky enough to have people around you — friends, family, coworkers, even pets — you already have access to HI. The need is so strong that people stay in bad relationships just to avoid losing it.

This idea branches into a thousand directions. Living alone vs living in a tribe. Why we need touch. Why communities form so quickly. How the brain fires off memories and associations nonstop. Each one is its own post.

But let’s stay with the simple truth:

You need Human Interaction.
You need HI.

Get some every day — even multiple times a day. Get it from people who make you feel good, who acknowledge you, who make you feel seen, heard, understood. Join a group where you feel welcome. Learn something. Engage. Don’t pretend you’re above it.

HI is not optional.
It’s as essential as sunlight, air, and the vitamins your body can’t live without.

Getting Started is Simple Physics

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I can’t tell you how many things I’ve read about getting started on tasks. In fact, I was just reading yet another article that proposed the usual BS: breaking tasks into smaller parts and other hints we’ve all heard so often that if they actually worked, I wouldn’t be reading yet another article on the topic—nor would you. Maybe the solution is a lot simpler and staring us right in the face.

I would bet real money you’ve experienced this phenomenon. It’s a fact, no different than gravity. But let’s not only use it but embrace it on every level. It’s simple physics.

What if it’s truly that simple? It’s true in the universe. Ask yourself: How many times have you said, “I’ll just put this one thing away,” and 15 minutes later, you’ve embarked on cleaning the whole room? How many times have you procrastinated doing your taxes, week after week? Finally said you began downloading some 1099s, and then realized you were all done and just needed to send them to the accountant? How many times have you said you’d just walk one block and found yourself walking a mile? How many times have you said you’d give up sugar, alcohol, or whatever for just one day, and it became a week or even a lifetime habit? “A body in motion tends to stay in motion” 

In fact, that’s what AA is based on. Life is a lot simpler than we make it out to be. By the way, guess what all the books on habits are based on? It’s all the same: do it once or for a few moments, and you’re often off to the races.

But don’t forget another part of the first law: a body at rest will tend to stay at rest. Or closer to how it’s written: Newton’s First Law of Motion states that a body at rest will remain at rest unless acted upon by an unbalanced force. This law is also known as the law of inertia.

So, you have to apply a disproportionate amount of force to get back in motion.

Have you also noticed how many of your 5-minute breaks turned into an hour? Talking to the guys here (I know you’re the gamers)—you took a break after working for an hour or a few hours (probably because you’re working from home), then decided to play one video game, and it turned into three or four? Or what about turning on the TV to catch up on the news, only to hear something designed to trigger you, and you just had to share it with a friend? (Okay, that one applies to all the myriad sexes.)

But don’t take my word for it. I’m merely asking you to look back on your life, even the past few weeks, months, or years, and ask if Newton’s Law applies to you. How many times have you gotten started on something difficult simply because you started—aka got in motion? I think it’s that simple. It applies to cleaning, decluttering, working on difficult things, and even the creative process. I’m pretty sure creatives are told to just start throwing out random ideas, thoughts, or paintings to see what evolves. Let me know with a comment.

PS: My previous idea a few posts ago was to do something for just one minute. That worked for me. My posture is almost perfect—better than it was even going back to my twenties. All I do is, for a moment—not even a minute—apply what the physical therapist taught me: stick your chest out and up a bit to open up your chest and relieve your back. The chest is where we get tight, and that rounds our shoulders. I often look to the right and left, up to 90%. That range of motion has also improved. I often grab the door frame to open up my shoulders, and on and on.

The point is, as in that post, even adding up one minute a day here and there—or, God forbid, a few times every hour (assuming you’re awake 18 hours a day, that’s 54 minutes a day)—I’ve now exceeded the amount of time you work out. And I would bet getting your body in motion all day is probably more beneficial than going to the gym for an hour and being a slug the rest of the day.

Back to the point of this blog—it’s actually a corollary to the one-minute idea. If you want to get something big done that requires sustained action, simply start. Or maybe it doesn’t require sustained action. But be cognizant that all you need is the initial push. Newton’s law is obvious. Does it take more motion to continue watching TV or scrolling on your phone, or does it require a certain amount of push just to get up out of bed or off your chair? It’s almost comical that I’m even posing this question.

Perhaps I need to hook up a pulley with a device to measure how many pounds of force it requires to lift your hopefully not-too-heavy body. So be cognizant of how many pounds of real physical and mental strength it takes to get started. And while you’re at it, how about making a habit of stretching your neck too? Otherwise, X, Z, and the youngest ones are all going to be hunched over, looking like 90-year-olds by the time they’re 40.

Sorry if this is too much information. I still have a functioning brain that brings other good things to mind when I try to convey even the simplest idea. So to recap: just get in motion. Hmm, what would be a good saying for that? Maybe “just do it”? How about “just start doing it”?

I would bet that might catch on. Just start doing it. Just start doing anything. Sure, the new AI, website, or article is going to hit some bumps and require a bit more work, but just start doing it. And if it ends up only being a minute, but you try every hour, that’s 18 minutes a day. And if you weren’t using a stopwatch, I would bet it might turn into an hour.

But one more time: the point of this is just get in motion. Often it’s actually easier to stay in motion.

PS It actually takes energy to stop a body in motion. Chew on that one. What if you became a perpetual motion machine. We have had days like that. We all certainly have had hours like that where we were on what we call “a tear” ripping through and getting an enormous amount of things done.

Still You—Just Lifted, Tighter, and Timeless

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Not quite your younger self anymore?

You catch your reflection and think, That’s not the face I remember. You haven’t changed inside—but gravity, stress, and time have quietly altered your appearance.

You’re not alone. And you’re not imagining it.

But here’s the truth:
You don’t need to look younger—you just want to look like you again. Clearer. Firmer. More confident.

Thinking About a Facelift?

You’re not the only one.
But you’re also not alone in hesitating.

  • The thought of surgery is overwhelming.
  • The downtime doesn’t fit your life.
  • And the fear of not looking like yourself again is real.

What if there were another way?
What if you could lift and tighten without going under the knife, and without the “done” look?

The Problem: Too Many Options, Too Much Noise

Ultherapy. Threads. RF. Lasers. Fillers. Ultrasound. Microneedling.
It’s a blur of names and devices—and no one seems to explain how it all works or who it’s really for.

That’s where we come in.

The Precision Aesthetics® Solution

We’ve spent over 20 years cutting through the confusion and perfecting the art of non-surgical facial lifting. Our signature method blends the three most effective, medically tested technologies—customized to your skin, muscle tone, and goals.

The Three Elements of Our Non-Surgical Facelift:

  1. Deep Collagen Stimulation – Helps rebuild your skin’s internal scaffolding for long-lasting structure.
  2. Muscle Toning and Lifting – Revives the natural lift of your cheeks, jawline, and brow using medical-grade tech.
  3. Surface Skin Tightening – Smooths, firms, and brightens with zero needles and zero downtime.

No scalpels. No fillers. No toxins. No recovery time.
Just a smarter way to restore your face—naturally.

Why Precision Aesthetics?

  • Over 20,000 treatments performed
  • Private, discreet doctor’s office in New York City
  • No franchises, no gimmicks, no upselling
  • Zero complaints in 20 years
  • Trusted by doctors, models, actors, and international clients

We don’t do everything. We specialize. And we tell you the truth about what works—and what doesn’t.

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You don’t need to commit to anything.
You just need to start the conversation.

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You want the best you can get without surgery or anything invasive. Who wouldnt be happier with less wrinkles an tighter skin. This is just one treatment. We combine 3 Although the women who do all three are way to wealthy to show their face, so you have to settle for mine.

You can walk out of our office and straight on camera, not hide out in your basement for god knows how long, and will you be permanently scarred?

Dont Do This.

Its self explanatory

Happy Easter. Happy Passover. It’s the time for rebirth. Even if you’re an atheist.

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P.S. I question everything. In modern-day jargon, I’m a mismatcher.

My senior thesis in high school?
“Did Jesus Christ Actually Exist?”
And—I’m Armenian.
We were the first nation on Earth to adopt Christianity as a national religion.

Back in 1971, the only source was the Encyclopedia Britannica (anyone remember that?), plus two controversial books of the time:

  • The Sacred Mushroom and the Cross, which claimed the disciples were probably tripping on psychedelics.
  • The Passover Plot, which suggested the whole thing was a hoax.

But here’s the wild thing: even back then, the historical evidence made one thing pretty clear—someone existed at that time named Jesus.
And the known details of his life?
He was crucified for his beliefs.

Whether or not you believe he was the Son of God, one thing hit me like a lightning bolt:
Imagine the conviction.
Choosing scourging and crucifixion over renouncing what he believed.

(And by the way—scourging makes flogging look like a spa treatment. It literally rips the skin off your body.)

So let me ask:
How much conviction do you have?
We complain about giving up cookies. Ooh, boo hoo.
We can’t drag ourselves out for a 6am run.
We can’t quit sugar or cigarettes or doomscrolling.

Jesus chose crucifixion over abandoning his truth.
Let that settle in for a second.

If we lived with even one-millionth of that conviction, we’d walk through life like immortals.

And it’s not just Jesus.

  • Moses went 40 days without food or water—a spiritual fast that makes our juice cleanses look like snack breaks.
  • Buddha gave up life as a prince and left his family to seek truth.
  • Muhammad spent years in solitude and sacrifice before Islam emerged.
  • And just now, our Muslim friends completed Ramadan—fasting from sunrise to sunset, every day for 30 days. Not for weight loss. Not for trend. For discipline. For connection to the divine. That kind of commitment humbles the rest of us.

Even the ant puts us to shame—it can lift 10x its own body weight.
What if we had the conviction of an ant?

Now imagine—not just borrowing that conviction—but being reborn with it.
That’s what Easter could mean.
Not eggs. Not chocolate. Not guilt.
Reinvention. Rebirth.

We are, quite literally, on the edge of something profound.
Science is catching up.
We’re starting to understand energy, consciousness, and the interconnectedness of all life in ways that echo what ancient texts said all along.
Faith and science aren’t enemies—they’re converging.

So if you’re feeling lost, lazy, or just low-grade disappointed in yourself—
this season is your reset button.
You don’t have to be perfect.
You don’t have to nail yourself to a cross.

But don’t live like a sloth.

Choose conviction.
Choose rebirth.
Choose one thing worth sacrificing for—and start.

Happy Easter. Happy Passover. And a belated Happy Ramadan.

Your Life is ONLY what you are thinking!

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Not the first person to say this. But I would like to amplify it. Kudos to all of the people in history, who have articulated it. Anthony Robbins, Your experience of life is simply what you are thinking. Actually just went through his top 20 quotes, nothing on this. So sorry Tony you didnt say it.

Stretch Marks Be Gone

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My answer. One of many that has garnered over 2 million answer views. https://qr.ae/p2FjZb

It is also the favorite of our clients. Only because it is so vexing and elusive. Personally I love the fact that my face is obviously at least 20 or thirty years younger. In fact I used my photo from 35 years ago as a “before” photo, LOL.

Getting Started is Simple Physics

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I can’t tell you how many things I’ve read because I, probably like everyone, have trouble getting started on tasks. In fact, I was just reading yet another article that proposed the usual BS: breaking tasks into smaller parts and other hints we’ve all heard so often that if they actually worked, I wouldn’t be reading yet another article on the topic—nor would you. Maybe the solution is a lot simpler and staring us right in the face.

Not only that, but I would bet real money you’ve experienced this phenomenon—or should we call it a fact? It’s a fact, no different than gravity. But let’s not only use it but embrace it on every level. It’s simple physics.

What if it’s truly that simple? It’s true in the universe. Ask yourself: How many times have you said, “I’ll just put this one thing away,” and 15 minutes later, you’ve embarked on cleaning the whole room? How many times have you procrastinated doing your taxes, week after week, in February after you get your W-2? In March, you finally said you’d begin downloading some 1099s, and then realized you were all done and just needed to send them to the accountant? How many times have you said you’d just walk one block and found yourself walking a mile? How many times have you said you’d give up sugar, alcohol, or whatever for just one day, and it became a lifetime habit? ““A body in motion tends to stay in motion” 

In fact, that’s what AA is based on. Life is a lot simpler than we make it out to be. By the way, guess what all the books on habits are based on? It’s all the same: do it once or for a few moments, and you’re often off to the races.

But don’t forget another part of the first law: a body at rest will tend to stay at rest. Or closer to how it’s written: Newton’s First Law of Motion states that a body at rest will remain at rest unless acted upon by an unbalanced force. This law is also known as the law of inertia.

So, you have to apply a disproportionate amount of force to get back in motion.

Have you also noticed how many of your 5-minute breaks turned into an hour? Talking to the guys here (I know you’re the gamers)—you took a break after working for an hour or a few hours (probably because you’re working from home), then decided to play one video game, and it turned into three or four? Or what about turning on the TV to catch up on the news, only to hear something designed to trigger you, and you just had to share it with a friend? (Okay, that one applies to all the myriad sexes.)

But don’t take my word for it. I’m merely asking you to look back on your life, even the past few weeks, months, or years, and ask if Newton’s Law applies to you. How many times have you gotten started on something difficult simply because you started—aka got in motion? I think it’s that simple. It applies to cleaning, decluttering, working on difficult things, and even the creative process. I’m pretty sure creatives are told to just start throwing out random ideas, thoughts, or paintings to see what evolves. Let me know with a comment.

PS: My previous idea a few posts ago was to do something for just one minute. That worked for me. My posture is almost perfect—better than it was even going back to my twenties. All I do is, for a moment—not even a minute—apply what the physical therapist taught me: stick your chest out and up a bit to open up your chest and relieve your back. The chest is where we get tight, and that rounds our shoulders. I often look to the right and left, up to 90%. That range of motion has also improved. I often grab the door frame to open up my shoulders, and on and on.

The point is, as in that post, even adding up one minute a day here and there—or, God forbid, a few times every hour (assuming you’re awake 18 hours a day, that’s 54 minutes a day)—I’ve now exceeded the amount of time you work out. And I would bet getting your body in motion all day is probably more beneficial than going to the gym for an hour and being a slug the rest of the day.

Back to the point of this blog—it’s actually a corollary to the one-minute idea. If you want to get something big done that requires sustained action, simply start. Or maybe it doesn’t require sustained action. But be cognizant that all you need is the initial push. Newton’s law is obvious. Does it take more motion to continue watching TV or scrolling on your phone, or does it require a certain amount of push just to get up out of bed or off your chair? It’s almost comical that I’m even posing this question.

Perhaps I need to hook up a pulley with a device to measure how many pounds of force it requires to lift your hopefully not-too-heavy body. So be cognizant of how many pounds of real physical and mental strength it takes to get started. And while you’re at it, how about making a habit of stretching your neck too? Otherwise, X, Z, and the youngest ones are all going to be hunched over, looking like 90-year-olds by the time they’re 40.

Sorry if this is too much information. I still have a functioning brain that brings other good things to mind when I try to convey even the simplest idea. So to recap: just get in motion. Hmm, what would be a good saying for that? Maybe “just do it”? How about “just start doing it”?

I would bet that might catch on. Just start doing it. Just start doing anything. Sure, the new AI, website, or article is going to hit some bumps and require a bit more work, but just start doing it. And if it ends up only being a minute, but you try every hour, that’s 18 minutes a day. And if you weren’t using a stopwatch, I would bet it might turn into an hour.

But one more time: the point of this is just get in motion. Often it’s actually easier to stay in motion.

PS It actually takes energy to stop a body in motion. Chew on that one. What if you became a perpetual motion machine. We have had days like that. We all certainly have had hours like that where we were on what we call “a tear” ripping through and getting an enormous amount of things done.

Its actually impossible to successfully lie unless you are a psychopath with a perfect memory so dont bother

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The other day something else came up where someone innocently suggested I tell a business associate something was untrue vs the truth. At first it slipped past me without a second thought. But later I realized that if I told the lie we would both have to remember the details forever as far as everyone involved. That is virtually impossible. I dont have enough brain cells to remember lies. There is a plethora of information that has to be remembered by countless people forever. If I wanted to memorize that much information I would have become a brain surgeon.

Maybe I am the selfish one because I dont want to expend all that mental energy to lie. As I mentioned previously I have been accused of being brutally honest many times. I have also had the funniest experiences with truth. I remember telling a lady at the office how great she looked. I didnt know she had actually gotten caught in the rain and her hair was all tousled. I admitted that it probably reminded me of the look of just getting out of bed after engaging in activities one often does in bed.

But seriously how many people waste billions of brain cells remembering stupid small lies and all of the people they have told them , as well as the accompanying details to support those lies. I have no idea how they get through their days with all of that information. Conversely just imagine how many degrees they could have earned if they applied themselves to learning valuable information.

Start with default honestly, all the time. It will also improve your self esteem as well. Dont tell the cold calling salesperson you cant afford it, or you dont have time now, simply say no thank you. Tell whatever and whoever you are not interested in that you are not interested.

Unblinded

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I attended a few meetings/seminars of Unblinded back in July. I could not hear or see what they were saying because they rearticulate what successful people do with massive details, and each and every step is expressed with their own language. So I truly could not “see it” PS ironically why it is called Unblinded. Sean Calagy the co-founder, is legally blind.

Over the past few months I have come to recognize that even I who have had literally forty plus years of learning self help self mastery did have some blind spots. Apologies for the analogies. Ironically it is exactly what turned me off for so many months.

If I may, a bit about me, so you can have more context and actual gravity to what I am about to say. My dad was a self help guy. I had thousands of books and tapes available to me my whole life. I took every course from Dale Carnegie to Anthony Robbins in the seventies. I even went to Tony Robbins 2 weeks in Hawaii seminar. I have also done experiential seminars including Life Spring (outgrowth of Forum and EST) So it was particularly hard for me to accept anything new. In fact when I left my apartment in New York, not knowing if I was going to Florida or where I was going, I donated everything to charity. On my receipt it said $2000 for value of 2000 books each and every one was health marketing, happiness, self help.

So there is nothing I havent read seen or done. So back to these guys. They take apart every single step of the process of influence to ensure you havent missed a single step. I also have a love of life and people and I easily connect and get rapport with 99% of people and strangers. I am the guy who makes friends with the person pumping gasoline that I encountered for a few minutes. And I was a successful salesperson and achieved just under one million in commissions in a single year. Today I answer phones for a cosmetic medical practice. Most calls end with “I cant wait to meet you” But I still love to learn

So here is the big surprise. I actually have a lot to learn. WTF? With even more questioning I quickly managed to bring out the deeper desires of the typical price phone call that I often get. I did have to ask three times about her past history. And then the flood gates opened. An hour later she made the appointment. But it is so much more. In practice as I rearticulate who I am and what I do. I have gone from modesty to recognizing I actually do know more than most doctors. Even the ones who lecture. They are merely paid by one company and given slides to promote one device. I have studied them all for over 17 years vs seeing patients. And my tone of voice. You all know when you are being too excited. You know when you are being authoritative. I didnt know. I was too successful to recognize the areas that I could improve, achieve greater rapport, and help everyone, even personal relationships.

Sorry to say my eyes are open now. If you look past the buzz words. This just might be the greatest course/program I have ever been involved with. And that says a lot coming from someone who has heard and read everyone for more than 50 years.