Family. It’s a word that holds so much weight and emotion. Yet, the concept of a nuclear family is not static. It evolves, shifts, and sometimes, it can be a painful transition.

I remember a time when it was always myself and my two sisters. We were inseparable, and I believed that nothing could come between us. I thought it would always be just us, standing together above everyone else, forever. But then life threw us a curveball. My father passed away, and suddenly, we were thrust into discussions about his estate. I was shocked, stunned, and incredulous. I lost it completely because their partners had different opinions, and I just couldn’t understand why. But then it hit me—they had their own nuclear families now. And naturally, loyalty to your nuclear family comes first.

That phase passed, and now we are back to being as close as possible, even though we live in different places.

Recently, I spoke with someone who had grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Unsurprisingly, he doesn’t speak or see his children much, as they have their own families and even grandchildren. Generational nuclear families are a reality. The dynamic changes with each generation, creating new families within families.

There are those Kodak moments—remember those? I guess Kodak moments have been replaced by Facebook moments. That’s a topic for another post. Yes, you will see that picture when everyone is together, spanning three generations. It might happen once a year. When I was little, we all gathered at grandmother’s house for most of the holidays. Sadly, most families today don’t spend much time with three generations present very often. As much as I loved seeing all my cousins, it really didn’t happen that often, maybe at Christmas and Thanksgiving.

As the family grew, each side started having their own gatherings. The nuclear family is constantly expanding, breaking off, and even contracting. The elders are not necessarily always revered, especially in this country. I admire cultures where families remain closer, where the elders are respected and cherished.

Sadly, the true essence of family life seems to be getting lost and replaced with, well, I don’t even know what—iPhones?

It’s natural for your nuclear family to change. It’s part of life. Embrace the transitions, cherish the moments, and remember that family, in whatever form it takes, is a constant evolution.