“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt  “We all have shit. Let go of your shit and stop making yourself feel inferior to anyone” John Aslanian 2024

I was talking to Fernando, who is becoming more important in my rise in self awareness and success. Today he reminded me of all of the things I have done and all of the wonderful attributes, knowledge, personality traits, care of others, and and things that define me in my life. He said all I have to do is let go of the things that I think are embarrassing or “failures” and he reminded me that we ALL and I mean ALL every one of us has many things we are embarrassed of. Hence the name of this post.

I reflected upon some old friends that have really risen in their identity and success in the world. Relative to them I feel like a failure because I was President of a 30 million dollar a year business that was lost. My identity was tied to being the President of a 30 million dollar a year company that did Printing and retouching for the biggest names in the world in fashion and cosmetics such as, Chanel, Revlon, Ralph Lauren, Calvin Klein, Debeers Diamonds, Donna Karan, Movado, Piaget watches, Roll Royce, BMW, to name just a few of the hundreds we serviced.

The reality was we were destroyed by an overzealous prosecutor in New York that literally published the name of our printing company as one being investigated because we were so squeaky clean I couldnt rat on someone so he could further his career. So that is my embarrassment. I was brought in to speak to the Federal prosecutors and literally told that. Sure enough our name was printed the very next week in AdWeek as a company being investigated. We lost all of our business within one week. It was devastating and painful.

So I have been holding myself back because of my embarrassment. Even though today I founded and manage probably the most exclusive non surgical cosmetic practice in New York. And I founded it in 2007. We literally not only have more experience than any of our contemporaries, but also have the latest and greatest technologies, of which we sourced over a dozen from different parts of the world.

Personally I have spoken 3 times a day to prospective new patients from all over the world. I have literally interviewed over 17,000 people from Europe, South America, the Middle and Far East. During that initial conversation I question, what treatments they have done and what the results were.

My point is, I know more than anyone on this planet about every procedure offered worldwide. While doctors specialize in a few treatments, my role is to study and understand everything. If there’s something better out there, I’d bring it in immediately. Our patients, coming from all over the world, expect nothing less.

Sorry for the segue. I am way too stream of consciousness. But to my original point. They always said if you are giving a speech picture the audience naked. Well today I say if you calling on someone who intimidates you, someone that you feel less than, picture them on the toilet. Its a safe bet they dont shit in the woods. In fact its a safe bet they have had diarrhea. Ok maybe thats a step too far, or is it?

If that picture helps your brain to viscerally understand that we all have moments in our life that we wouldnt share on facebook, then do it. In fact dont steal my idea. But I am going to make Worstbook. Unlike Facebook you only get to post embarrassing moments. We can all post the one day a year when we are at a gorgeous vacation spot. In fact even if it rained all week and it sucked we can still get the sunset at least one evening. No one has to know you fought with your partner the whole time and slept on the couch.

I think Facebook is the worst thing that ever happened to this planet. I am sure some shrink already beat me to the punch in writing the book “the facebook effect” ie we think everyone we know is having a perfect life. So we feel miserable. When nothing could be further from the truth. No one posts a photo of anything they are embarrassed of, only happy seemingly successful moments, even if its literally only one day a year, and retouched as well..

So back to square one. You can let go of “your shit” Because we all have shit. Get it?

PS thanks to Fernando obviously unbeknownst to him, an old soul. He will figure it out sooner or later because his greatest wisdom comes from his inner knowledge. No one taught him what he sees and reiterates. Sure methods are helpful, he did co-found Unblinded. More on that in the back.

But for today and always, let go of your shit. Not only do we all have shit, we all shit every day, if we are healthy. If you still havent gotten it, here is my last thought. We all wipe our ass too, unless you have a bidet. So imagine that before you start your day and think yourself inferior to anyone.

Choose whatever resonates with you.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt  “We all have shit stop making yourself feel inferior” John Aslanian 2024