Assuming you live with the person you love, they are the hardest person to listen to. Duh….., you live together. Depending on how many years you have lived together you have already heard every single story. In fact perhaps you have heard them multiple times. You know what they like. You can probably predict their opinions on a variety of subjects and even know the language they will use.

Worse yet do you work from home? Do you both work from home? Wow talk about a recipe for disaster. How can you possibly “bring home” something new and exciting when you havent left the house? Well this is my challenge and I am up to it. I am going to practice deep listening and questioning. Why wouldnt I want to make the person that I claim to love feel loved?

I dont think its going to be easy. The triggers are monumental. Every thing you say, every look you have every mannerism you both have triggers both good and bad memories. I guess I will need to focus on feelings and asking to go deeper into any stories that seem repetitive. Perhaps I should even say it seems that was a pretty important part of your life, what was going on at that time, how were you feeling. OK I am only talking to myself here, Or talking to myself with the computer listening and writing. But I think I am getting somewhere. This is going to be continued. Because this is a monumental task that I will be taking on.

I think the recognizing of the tiny steps that Unblinded has articulated will be helpful. Where have you been where are you now, where do you want to go. I guess I have to review them. Wish me luck because there is no earthly formula for a man or whatever you call a heterosexual man (sorry dont know the buzz tags) to understand a woman. That formula has yet to be invented. If I am successful. I will write the book. It should sell at least a billion copies.

Men and women have not understood eachother since the beginning of time.