This can be really profound. Dont we all want to be liked? How far do we go to be liked? Are we being true to ourselves? How can we be happy if we are hiding behind a facade and its not even who we are, what we think or what we want? What is a big lie? What is a little lie? Is lying ever right? What do you want to eat? I dont care, whatever you want. Is this OK with you?

I go way out o my way to be nice to people. I know I am a people pleaser. But I also have been accused of being brutally honest. So which is it? Now I am confusing myself. When is it narcissistic (lack of empathy or caring about others) to be honest? Its actually really confusing if you think about it.

I know we all feel better when we are honest. I know we all feel better when we are honest with ourselves. Heck living a lie is not living at all. Last night I was on a call where they went on and on about confronting and truth. It sounded a bit over the top. Then of all days, this morning a friend explained how great it felt to be really honest with some people in their life. Funny havent had one conversation about “truth” in 30 years but had two in 12 hours. So my ears have perked up. But I cant think of any objective criteria to describe what is right and what is wrong, when it comes to truth.

Is it even not right to not tell a friend when they butchered their hair? I think there is always a way to be honest with compassion and empathy. ie “my personal preference is longer hair, but thats me, ask someone else” I think thats appropriate. Or why should they even talk to you if all you do is lie? By the way that is the one time everyone says its OK to lie.

I think our belly knows best. When you feel that little thump or pang in your belly your intuition is telling you that its time to be a bit more forthright. You dont have to run them over. You can merely say, “you hurt my feelings” or I am very unhappy about that, or I would prefer not to spend time with you when you behave that way. Dont forget, in this situation it is all about you. Dont say “you made me feel this way” You are merely honestly telling people how you feel and the behavior you intend to pursue.

Take responsibility, take responsibility for your own feelings, be honest and “live being true to yourself.” PS please dont say live your truth. How did anyone take such an important statement and turn it into meaningless dribble. WTF is “live your truth?” There are more gibberish statements that water down important truths today more than ever in the history of the spoken word.

If it was good enough for Shakespeare its good enough for me. “To thine own self be true”

Maybe I am on to something. PS there is a distinction and I hope you get it. I am not talking about self obsessed narcissistic behavior. I am talking about simple honesty especially with yourself and others.