Or is it vice versa ?

How to make any relationship work

Introduction

If I tell you that men and women are from different planets, that is a cop out and an excuse for not communicating.  Or a recipe for giving up, because why would people from different planets ever get along.  However if I give you a simple example from nature that everyone has seen first hand, you can begin to understand how to make any relationship work with simple analogies that everyone has seen and interacted with.

PS not all men are cats and not all women are dogs, but that’s where we begin to unravel how to relate to your partner whether he or she is a cat or a dog.

How many of you have ever been around a cat or a dog ?  I take it 100% of you have interacted with these two animals.  You already know what I am going to teach you, and by the time we are done you may come up with even better ways of training your cat or dog.  Or getting along, and or admitting that you don’t like “the animal you bought” and might even consider trading your cat in for a dog or vice versa,  But at the least I promise you, you will have a new insight you have never had before that will work on unlimited levels of acceptance, understanding and possibly an opportunity to improve your relationship with your “cat” or “dog”  Because lets face it, most people do know how to deal with a dog or a cat, but many people are completely baffled when their partner behaves in those exact same ways

Lets start with a basic premise that we can all accept,  We are all animals, thats a fact, and we have instinctive behaviors in our reptilian brains that have been hard wired for millions of years.  We also are different.  If you are reading this book you have probably been in a few relationships and I am sure you will agree that the people you have interacted with are dramatically different.  And you probably would equally agree that many of them were exact opposites and had no desire to change their behavior.  You probably have already dated many “cats” and “dogs”  And there is something great about both animals.  Nothing is prettier and more alluring than a cat, as well as frustrating because they are completely untrainable, have a mind of their own, and you will never know what they are thinking,  

Conversely nothing is more comforting and loyal than a dog, but try leaving them alone for the shortest period of time and get ready to be knocked down and licked from head to toe when you return. 

I am sure you are already 10 steps ahead of me with that “aha” moment, as you think of your partner that might be an uncommunicative cat or a constantly licking dog craving your attention, or jumping up and down every two minutes waiting for your return the moment you leave the home with incessant text messages and phone calls.  He or she is not necessarily insecure or untrusting, they simply crave constant affection like every dog.

Who you are in this relationship has no bearing as to who you want for a partner.  For example many cats want dogs for a partner.  But the old adage becareful what you ask for applies here for sure.  If you are a cat wanting a dog as a partner, don’t be angry when your faithful dog wants constant attention.

While we are on the subject, who gets along ? Well again just look to nature, cats and dogs can get along, two dogs can get along, two cats can get along.  So there aren’t neccearily any rules, except for one.  Don’t expect a cat to act like a dog and don’t expect to train your cat.

Speaking of nature lets look at some common relationships we have all seen already.  Typical relationhips,   trophy wife loving husband, Can you guess ?  Obviously the woman is the cat in this relationship and the husband is the loyal dog that gets to pet the cat sometimes while the female cat is constantly grooming and preening.

Yet how many women complain about  their man that only wants to go to the gym, work on his pecs and biceps, shop for clothing and pretty much doesn’t want to communicate.   That man is an obvious cat.  “Leave me alone while I preen myself.”  Don’t pet me unless I come over for a cuddle. 

In nature the woman is the child bearer

Self assessment

Partner assessment

Qualities of dogs

Qualities of cats